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Boss who is Controlling and Micromanages
I wish Tania would quit - she replaced Bruce (our former manager whom all my coworkers loved). Tania is our Manager for six months now and lives two an half hours away - she travels five hours a day. She is very moody. In addition she micromanages (controlls every detail and has no respect for anyone). I dress really well, professional and in style. She called me in to her office yesterday and asked me why was I wearing pants that were showing my ankle. And why was I wearing navy pants with a purpley plum blazer with a blue (royal blue and sky blue) blouse. Then later on she called me into her office to tell me that I shouldnt socialize with my coworkers, they are busier than I am. When she is there my coworkers and I all we do is work. She is constantly calling in people to our office to chew them out for nothing earth shattering. Also we cannot go next door to get coffee or something to eat unless we are on our lunch break. She acts more like a warden or pincipal, then a manager. Everyone in the branch now hates working in this branch. Also the two big bosses (the Division Head and the Regional who Tania reports to) were supposed to come and meet with Tania and our AM's, but the big bosses havent come to our branch due to other things they have to attend to. The Big bosses told Tania and the AM's it is a sales meeting, it doesnt make sense. What do you think? Also yesterday one of my other coworkers told me that Tania made her change her jacket - my coworker had on a beautiful cordoroy jacket and Tania told her that is a no-no. What I am questioning about the sales meeting is it really a sales meeting or is the Division Head and the Regional sick of Tyroon and how we are being managed. I am sure there are many complaints. Someone I am sure is complaining about her. One of my coworkers (Tom) came to work at our branch because he used to work for the Regional and I think Tom will be our Branch Manager soon. I am sure Tom tells our Regional what happens in our branch and how Tania is.
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I feel for you. Tania has some serious emotional problems. She is a miserable person, probably lives a miserable life, and has a need to take it out on everyone else. SHe is not the first person in a place of power to act like this. (And here's a clue, you sound young, and you can bet that she won't be the last boss that you have who is like this during your career.) I know that ignoring these kinds of bosses is impossible.
I can't believe she had a problem with you showing your ankles, and what is wrong with a corderoy jacket? She will be a tough nut to crack. I can only hope along with all of you that she is going to be replaced soon. But I have seen people like her keep their positions even after dozens of good people have left on account of their boss's sicko personality. You may not want to transfer to change jobs, but I hope you are looking anyway. Something good may come along, and it is easier to find a job when you have a job. I do have one suggestion, you could try this, it worked for me with a co-worker who was just like this. And "our" relationship became better, and it was easier for me to work with her, but it didn't get better for anyone else, and other people started coming to me to complain, figuring that since I got along with her, that I could do something about it. (I couldn't, after 8 years I did leave).
Pay her a compliement. Appeal to her ego. Tell her something you admire about her. (Even if you don't mean it, and I know you won't mean it.) People like her think they work SO HARD and NO ONE understands them or their dedication.
Compliment, her work, or her hair, or a piece of jewerly she is wearing. Or try saying something like, "you work so hard. I hope the bosses appreciate you." Or a good thing is to show that you recognize her dedication by how far she travels every day. Marvel at it. Yeah it sounds phony, but if she is as sick as I think she is (desperate for acknowledgement and acceptance) she'll suck it all up.
THen maybe your work life will become more tolerable until she leaves or you find a better job.
good luck to you
Michele
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