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am i doing anything wrong??
ok 15/f...if that helps. Ok so one of my best guy friends is like in love with me. I know it, he knows it, the world knows it. I don't like him back. And the world knows that too (including him). I hear everyone saying that he is such a sweet guy and he would do anything for me but I just don't like him. I don't know what to do. He's liked me forever and he can't seem to get over me (sorry if that sounds cocky). I'm not leading him on or playing with his emotions b/c I'm just trying to be his friend. And he complains to everyone about how much he likes me and how I don't like him back and I feel like I'm doing something wrong. I've even tried taking a break from him for a while but he's said that he would rather get over me on his own than have us take a break from our friendship. Help?
Thanks.
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Hi, well your not doing anything wrong - what you are doing is trying to be a good friend and trying to be honest with him. Situations like this are very difficult. What I would say is this: I've seen more than once really strong, special friendships seriously damaged by the two becoming 'more than friends' people who have been good friends for a long time, friends who are really close have to be very, very careful if they are to become more than that. This isn't the point hear as you don't actually like him in that way but maybe if you explain to him how important your friendship is and how you would never want to do anything to jeopardise that he would understand? Be understanding and caring, he is your friend and this must be very, very hard for him. Also you say 'the world knows it' - well try not to let the whole thing become public knowledge any more than it already is, this is private between you and your friend and it must be hard enough for him as it is (and for you!). He will accept what your saying and move on eventually (honest!)
Chandler
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You probably don't want to hear this, but I would really reccomend giving him a chance. How can you know that you aren't attracted to him at all before you've dated him?
If I were you i'd be extra nice to him and pretend to like him. Or heck, you could just tell him flat out.
You might be surprised at what it turns out to be. :)
hope i helped.
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Hey, look. He is just going to have to get over it. Otherwise, how can you continue to have a healthy friendship?
I have said it before, and I will say it again: Changing some one's feelings is just as easy as changing the past. YOU CAN'T DO IT. Period.
He will have to realize that your feelings are FRIENDLY ONLY and get over it.
Talk to him, and inform him of that fact. If you feel you need to take a break from him to help him open his eyes to that fact, then DO IT. Weather he likes that or not.
Obviously, this idea he has of getting over you in his own time is a goal too far out of his reach if he is complaining about how much you don't like him in that way.
ygs-29/f
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Talk to him. If he IS YOUR FRIEND, he's be supportive on your decision and of your feelings :) Since he's well aware of your feelings towards him, you should confront him yourself and just straight out tell him what you feel, what you want for both of you to be cool with each other, and just be really good friends if that's all you want. Just, confide in him knowing that he will be a good sport about this whole situation and accept the fact that you two will only be friends. Just be ... precise on what you should say to make it clear for him. :)
I hope my advice helps, and if you have anymore problems... feel free to ask me :D And if my advice doesn't help at all, I am truuuuly sorry :) I tried. You take care!! <3
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