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just wondering
this is from:Sharing the bed
okay i understand what u mean, i dont force her to like me, i treat her as my friend like i do to mine other friends. and i am trying to move on and i still will be her pal. but what she did, thats nothing to worry about right? it dosent mean anything? just woundering.
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Well, that is a whole different question. She would not be the first woman, who was not sure about her sexual orientation, or maybe curious about what it would be like to be with a woman, and she wouldn't be human if she were not flattered by your admitting that you have feelings for her that go beyond friendship.
Today, being bi-sexual is no big deal, and kids are not discouraged from experimenting.
I think she IS curious. My concern is YOUR feelings. She may just be curious, and she may want to experiment. Only experiment. How do you feel about that. What may only be curiosity on her part, but a longed for romance on your part, could ruin your friendship. And you will be the one who is devastated by it. You'll have lost her as a friend and as a potential lover.
Ok, this is what I think, I think that soon, maybe after having a drink or too, she will relax and may make it very clear that she would like to try making love with you. Are you ready to be someone's sexual experiment? Can you handle it emotionally if it never grows beyond that in her heart? If not, #1, don't make the first move, and #2, if she does, are you ready to just have sex, and not be emotionally involved?
I don't mean to say that a long and committed relationship is not possible between you two, but you know the signs of true love. She should be as devoted to you, as you are to her. If you have doubts, I say go with your gut feeling and say you are only interested if love is involved.
Because I am afraid that you are going to end up hurt, and even alone, and who knows she may even start to gossip about you, or say that you took advantage of her. I hope I have not discouraged you from looking for true love. It will happen some day. I know it will. You can't hurry love.
Michele
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