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unwanted at my best friend's house
My best friend's parents are best friends with mine. We've known each other forever. So it's basically like her house is my second home, & her parents take care of me a lot, etc. She has a pool, so we're there a ton in the summer. It's not really a big deal, but lately her sister's been like, "why are you always here? why can't you go to her house sometimes?" But this is mostly when her boyfriend is over. He can't stand me I guess, cause whenever it's me & my best friend together & he's there they yell at us & leave sometimes. It's really annoying because we like, ask them to go swimming with us or something & they snap. I try to be nice & like offer to pay for them if they take us to taco bell or something but they're so crabby whenever I'm there. Normally I'd just have her come over here, but it's so boring because we have like no movies, no pool, no one to drive us anywhere.. so in the summer we like to go to her house.
My nature is just, to be funny & loud & obnoxious. I know this, but I can't help it. I'm 15 but I can be really immature with my best friend.. we just like having a lot of fun.
What should I do to get her sister & boyfriend to stop being so mean to us & not even giving us a chance.. because it's only when her boyfriend is there. & I don't know what else to do.
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i think that you should just ignore her
dont even try to be nice to her
and if shes kicking you out of her house
kick her out of your house
like Justin Timberlake says
what goes around comes around
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Ok I'm guessing the sister is older than you and your bestfriend. You know how sisters are. I have 2 little sisters and I don't like them to be around me and my friends either. She's probably just showing off. Just try talking to her or to your bestfriend (not when the bf is around of course) but maybe tell her that you're not meaning to bug her and that you're sorry for whatever you did to annoy her. In situations like this, it's always better to be the bigger man... er woman.
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Okay from the way you worded this question, I'm guessing that your best friend's sister and her boyfriend are older than you. So I'm betting that they just don't want you guys hanging around them. They just want some time to be able to hang out alone with out 2 younger sister types tagging along. When you go over there, just hang out with your best friend and act like they're not there. Go swimming, watch movies, do whatever. Don't invite them, just forget them. If you want them to take you somewhere, ask politely and offer to pay for gas. Tell them if they don't want to, then that's fine, don't just expect them to be a taxi for you guys. Most importantly, don't go to them and bug them. And when I say bug, I mean be super loud and hyper around them when they don't think it's funny. They will just see that as bugging them (even though I know what you mean when you say you can't help it, I'm the same way) Over time, they will start to be okay with you guys being there, and being around them sometimes.
Good Luck =)
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They probably just want alone time together. Or her sister thinks she's too cool to hang out with yall when he's over. Or he just gets annoyed easily. It might be many things but whatever it is, all it comes down to is, don't try to be nice to them and ask them to do things with yall. It obviously isn't going to happen. Just try to stay out of their hair. If you need them to drive you somewhere let your friend ask her sister on the side, away from the boyfriend. Tell her to say something like, I know you want to be with him but if you have time, can you take us to taco bell? If they've been mean to you when you ask them to go swimming with yall, then don't ask anymore.
You can be immature with your friend all you want but sometimes you need to be aware of who is around you. Being loud is fun but it may annoy certain people. I used to be just like you all the time but I had to realize that it's not always accepted. I'm not telling you to act different around them, just tone it down a bit because not everyone likes that. I'm not trying to offend you because like I said before, I can be like that.
They're older and want to act older. That's all there is to it. Hope it gets better! :)
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