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dance coming up
first of all we've been in a relationship for almost a year now. well, my boyfriend has already decided he doesn't want to attend the end of the year dance.
i kinda wanna go, but i dont want to force him to go either. he told me if i wanted him to go with me he would. but the stupid dance thing is 20$ and i dont want to make him go just because i want too. haha if i went by myself, i'd feel bad if i danced with another boy but yeah blah. or i could hang out with the boyfriend at night and thats how it would go. blah idk any opinons on this little situation haha? thanks for readingg :)
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Tell him why you really want to go and ask him to go with you. You need to use the "we all do things we don't want to do for someone else" line and play it to the hilt and use past instances where you went somewhere or did several things with or for him you didn't want to do just to make him happen.
Tell him it's a two way street and only one evening of his time and that you enjoy dancing with him. Maybe tell him if he behaves and goes with you that you'll make him a deal that you'll do something with him that he likes doing and has interest in that you don't to even the score.
I doubt you would have a good time going to the dance alone but if he won't budge you ought to go rather than sit out over him. You can always dance with your friends. As far as other guys go don't. Your boyfriend will find out and regardless of his whole stance on not going you'll get a hell of a lot of grief and jelousy you don't need.
So, you need to play the "I do stuff for you I don't want to do" and remember when i did X and Y and Z for you recently?" More or less it's a guilt trip but you need to wake him up to the fact that he has to reciprocate sometimes or you'll stop going places or doing anything you don't want to do.
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Be totally honest with him:
"I want to go to this dance. It would be great if you would go with me, but if you really don't want to, don't, cause it wouldn't be any fun if you weren't having at least a bit of a good time. If you don't go though, I want you to know I might dance with someone else, and I don't want to feel guilty about it, so I'm telling you now."
If he comes, make him promise to try and have a good time. If he doesn't, assure him nothing inapropraite will happen (duh!) you just wanted him to know you were gonna be dancing so there would be no surprises. If he refuses to go and refuses to be okay with you dancing with other guys, dump the unreasonable little boy.
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