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my best friend likes the girl i like

Question Posted Friday June 8 2007, 12:33 am

hey i am guy. i like this girl and so does my best friend. Ill give you the full story . me and my friend are good friends with her. hes slightly more with her and he really likes her... he wanted to make out with her but he didnt in a spin-the-bottle game....anyway, i made out with someone then. hes really protective of her, but hes shy around her. ill give u an example.. one of his other friends, a guy, was coming to stay at his house from a different town, hes like a real jock and had been talking to her on msn too. my friend told him not to make out with her. also recently hes been saying every girl i ever was close to was really hot and we should get back 2gether again. i think hes trying to put me off this girl? anyway we r both single, wel im kind of, so i think he doesnt want me to make out with her. i kind of do though thats the problem. hes a real good friend though.

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solidadvice4teens answered Friday June 8 2007, 2:05 am:
What it all boils down to here is that the girl ultimately is the one to decide who she likes. So, why not leave it to her? Let her know that your friend is really shy and protective of her and really wants to be the guy she goes for.

Point out how you also feel about her and that you sense she has no attraction to your friend in a romantic way. Tell her that you don't want to lose your friend but could she please indicate her preference in a way that won't hurt anyone?

Your friend won't be so crushed if she goes for you now. It's stupid to both like her and have no idea what she's even thinking. Maybe she doesn't like either of you or wants to be with you or him. Let the girl decide by laying it all out for her and that both you and your friend like her and it's a problem.

Until she tells you both where you stand it's going to get really awkward around her. Your friend if he likes her has no right to try to prevent other guys from talking to or dating her if he's not up to stepping up to the plate and making his intentions known to her. She's fair game. If you're real friends no girl will come between you.

Try handling it the way I mentioned and have her approach him and say I'm dating your friend X but I really like you a lot and value our friendship but I don't like you in that manner. This way there's really no hardship between people.

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summer_is_love258963 answered Friday June 8 2007, 1:15 am:
well i know you've probally heard this a million times..but ur girlfriends are gonna come and go but your bestfriends always gonna be there for be there for him and dont mess with the girl he likes..

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XSugarPieX77 answered Friday June 8 2007, 1:12 am:
So, all you want to do with her is make out with her, or you actually want to date her? If you just want to make out with her, maybe you should let her go, and let your friend, who seems to really like her have her. Have you heard of the saying "Bros before hoes" think about that, would you rather loose your really good friend, or go out with a chick that is probably just a hookup and loose him? He could be trying to swerve you offcourse of this girl, but hey, who wouldnt if he thinks you like her.You should deffinitly talk to your pal about this, see what is feelings are. Hope I helped! Happy Summer!


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