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is it enough?
i broke up with my bofriend last night because i ldidnt thinnk i loved him
but i loved the way he treated me. &i loved that he was deep. maybe i just wasnt attracted to him.
now my friend is telling me about how mean her boyfriend is to her.......
so im starting to think. maybe him treating me right is enough?!?!?
idk. im having second thoughts.
what do you think?
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well you shouldnt compare your boyfriend to your friends boyfriend in the first place..but if you dont feel like you love him dont go back out with him you'll be misserable.
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Trust your instincts on this one.
I've met so many girls and guys who stay in icky relationships because "Well... he doesn't hit me." or "Well... I know she doesn't cheat on me."
That is just plain stupid. You shouldn't stay with a preson just because they don't treat you like crap. He might be a wonderful person and good boyfriend, but if just aren't feeling it, that is as good a reason as any to move on.
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Honestly, if you feel like he's not right for you, then he's not right for you. I personally trust my first instincts, because they're always right - and they only fail me when I second guess them.
If you didn't feel like it was right when you were together, then chances are it wasn't right.
BUT if you really liked the way he treated you, and all that stuff about him, maybe talk to him and find out what the root of your problem was. Or freewrite about him - open up a blank Word document and write about him until you come up with a conclusion, or your hands get tired, whichever happens first.
Ask him if he's willing to help you get to the bottom of this. He should be, as long as you didn't break up with him in a really hurtful way.
Good luck!
-Siren =)
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Well I've had a similar problem to this, you look at your ex-boyfriend and you think what a great guy, he's so nice to me, he's cute, he's great, all of these things. And you keep telling yourself these things and you say well I should be with him he's a great guy and I don't want to miss out. But really your just not attracted to him, your attracted to (I guess this word might work) lifestyle. You want this amazing boyfriend but in reality you don't have feelings for him. Now you need to look at it this way, if you want to have fun with him, and have him be there for you when you need him then you can continue dating him, but try not to get to serious. But if you want to find someone you really care about and like alot then you should move on from him. I'm not saying it's ok to date your ex-boyfriend and treat him poorly. But I'm saying it's ok to have fun and have a good relationship with someone. You need to really think it over do I want fun and a great guy I don't like/ or keep searching for the guy I really care about and want to be with. Good Luck! :)
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I know exactly what your going through.
I just kinda went through it recently.
Maybe talk to him about it..
Like i myself would do it over text,
Tell him that
You still care..and that your always here.
and you still want him to care..and ask
if he has anything to say.
i hope i helped
<3
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