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Depressed Due To The Unability to Find A Real Friend
Hi. I'm really sorry if this is going to be long, but my life concerning my friends is a total mess & I really need some help. For some reason, I 've been feeling so depressed and I know this relates to my friends somehow. To be honest, I moved about a year ago and I still can't relate much to a single person I've met. I have friends but they're not really close friends or anything, & I understand this takes time. But everyone my age in the community is so entirely different from me & they have entirely different values & everything, & they've grown up together from the time when they were little, so when I entered the picture I was a total stranger & no one really wants to be friends because we're so different from each other.The thing is, I don't want to have to create an image for myself;I want to be able to be myself 'cuz a good friendship's all about trust, right, & if I'm not acting like myself, then how can that friend trust me if they ever found out? Besides, I don't want to have to change my image because this is who I am, and nobody else should have to decide that! I can't look for friends online, because it's against my values & I know that sounds a little hypocritical because I'm asking for advice online, but this is just different somehow. I'm really in need for some advice because I've never felt truly happy for a long time now & I haven't been able to reach my old friends in a long while. I'm growing into this introvert who doesn't speak to anyone when we get together and it's driving me insane because the person I really am is someone who's talkative, but there's no one to speak to because we can't relate to pretty much anything! This situation seems impossible to me, & that's why I came to you for help. I mean, if you had any ideas, I'd really appreciate it... thx.
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heyy! sorry it took so long to answer, but i think i can help you out. you seem to be in a hard position that almost every person goes through at least once in their life. as we get older we all just want to be accept. that doesnt necessarily mean we have to change who we are so that people will like us, not by any means. i get depressed all the time because of my friends, and thats normal but as you get older you figure out who your true friends really are. its okay to be different, we all are. you shouldnt feel pressured to change because everyone else is different. be yourself and let people find you for who you are. be the talkitive girl you say you are and just try to talk to people. if they don't like you for who you are, you don't need them in your life. eventually you will find those few best friends that will see you for who you are. i'm not saying its gonna happen right away things like this take a while but in the end its going to be worth it because you will gain new best friends. you always have me and jess to talk to if you really feel like you have no one else. i hope this helped you out, if not e-mail me back and we'll talk some more!
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