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being really pressured
my boyfriend and i have been dating for over a year now. i'm 15 and he is 17. i really do like him but i'm not in love with him. so my first question is...should i be in love with him by now or should i quit wasting my time with him?? i don't wanna break up with him because i really do like him though. and my next one is he has lately been talking about sex a lot. He tried it about 6 months ago but i told him i wasn't ready. he then said okay thats fine we will wait till you are. so i'm still not ready and he is wanting it bad. i really don't wanna lose him to another girl for sex. i would rather lose him because there isn't a strong enough connection than to lose him to lies and sex. You know what i mean?? anyways hwat should i do about this??
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As for the question about loving him.
It takes time. I'm not saying you should end it because you don't, but people get to the point where they love someone at a different rate. It doesn't just happen over a set period of time.
I'm actually really glad you said you don't love him, because a lot of people think that because they are dating someone, they are obligated to love them.
And the sex thing. Just tell him you're not ready again. If he really likes you, he'll respect that and wait until you are ready. You shouldn't be being pressured about that. If he keeps doing it, honestly, I think you should break it off. No one should be pressured into doing something if they don't want to, and especially if they don't think they're ready. And don't give into the pressure unless you're positive you're ready. Don't do anything you're not comfortable with.
If he goes to another girl for sex, then I say it's his loss, because he's losing a girl with good moral values. You may be sad at first if you two break up because of this, but you'll realize that there's someone out there who respects you enough to wait, and you'll be glad you did.
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k honestly quit wasting your time on him if he doesn't understand how you feel or what kind of presssure your going through let him go sure you'll feel bad but its better than feeling lousy for not doing it don't you think? anyways tell me how it goes k bye
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If he loves you enough 2 wait then he will but if he wants sex so BAD and you're not ready yet and he breaks up with you over it then he wasn't even worth your time hope i helped
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theres no answer to the first question 'should i love him by now'. people love differently. you like him and you've been going out with him for over a year so keep going with it. and never give up on love.
tell him no means no and to hold his horses cause your not ready and all he's doing is putting preassure on you. if he loves you like you think then he wont leave you for that
hope that helped! if u have any more question just ask me whenever on whatever. tell others too =)
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