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Jealous Boyfriend
i have a weird problem: my boyfriend is jealous of me. for example, i'm in honors classes and get really good grades, and hes always like "you're so smart and im so stupid!". if i win an award or accomplish something, he never says congratulations or good job, he just pouts. or if i do something with my girlfriends, he acts all left out, even tho its just girls. also, he spent all year convincing me to try out for cheerleading, and then when i made it, i got a lot of attention, and that made him mad. the weird thing is, he's really funny and popular and athletic and lots of girls like him, so it doesnt seem like he'd have any reason to be jealous of me. i love him so much but this is putting a real strain on our relationship! why does he act that way??
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The guy has serious insecurity problems. He'll need to get over them if your relationship is going to be successful.
As your boyfriend, he should be pleased when you succeed at things and even a little happy about the attention you get - after all, it reflects well on him that you COULD have another boyfriend, but he's the one you want to be with.
Do you have any idea what the root of his problems is? Perhaps you can try to draw him out a little. In any event, I'd say the time has come for you to talk seriously with him about his attitude. You deserve to be able to succeed without having to hear him whine about it, and it's definitely not fair for him to get upset about you wanting to spend time with your other friends. Basically, you need to give him an ultimatum - tell him that his depressive attitude is causing a major strain on your relationship, and that if he keeps putting himself down and sulking whenever something good happens for you, eventually you're going to get tired of it and walk away. Put this to him gently and make it clear that you'll help him if he needs emotional support, but that the way things have been isn't the way they can be anymore.
SOMETHING is bothering him. He may not even know what it is consciously, but he's got some kind of problem that's making him feel worthless. Hopefully you can help him through it, but don't let him drag you down. If he insists on being someone that will hold you back, you may eventually need to just cut him loose.
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believe it or not, its because he loves you.
try confronting him,then spendsome extra time with him.and make him feel special when he does something cool
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