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Low Self Esteem
Well my BEST friend is overweight but at the same time is REALLY pretty. She's never had any sort of thing with a guy, and the one boy she did really like, always ditched her. But now she has the lowest self esteem ever, and I was just wondering id you knew anything I could say to her to make her feel better. More than just "You're beutiful and any guy would be lucky to have you." I want to get it through her head that the right guy is out there and she really is a beautiful person.
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Its really great that you are concerned for your friend. Just keep encouraging her. Also maybe if you have some guy friends or even cousins, you could fix her up with one. Try even going on a double date to make it less awkward. Just keep encouraging her! Hope my advice helps!
♥ Jenny
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Your friend just might be clinically depressed. You should talk to her candidly about her self-esteem one day when you are alone and what kind of thoughts she is having about herself.
Tell her she can always vent her feelings to you and that it may be an even better idea to tell her parents, an adult she trusts, or her teacher how she has been feeling lately.
It's in her best interest that she sees her family doctor so that he can talk to her about her feelings and refer her to a psychiatrist if he thinks she is clincally depressed.
Perhaps if she were on anti-depressants she may start feeling better about herself. Weight issues are not always related to eating and could be glands.
Perhaps if it is food related the doctor could teach her how to get it in check, eat sensibly and loose weight. What you should do is tell her that you never lie and that she is beautiful, has a great personality, and is desirable. Tell her you'll even prove it.
Why not find soeme nice guys you know that value girls for their personality and not their weight. maybe there's someone you could introduce to her that could become a potential match or at the very least a good friend that includes her.
If you are really, really concerned for her talk to your teacher, an adult you trust or your parents. They can talk to her folks about it or the teacher can call her parents in for an interview and mention her plummeting self-esteem without anyone knowing you tipped him/her off about it. Your teachers are great advocates.
I hope this serves as some ideas of how to help your friend. Believe me, and you should tell her this that it's those guy's ultimate loss. Let her know too that boys are immature at this age but it gets better as you grow older.
Tell her she wants a man and someone who is mature and offer her advice and a chance to meet some. Show her how to attract people and get her personality and qualities to shine through.
It shouldn't matter to a guy or vice-versa a girl a damn about race or size if they are mature. All that matters is the connection between two people and whether or not a person is a good individual. Show her that she is all these things and try to prove it to her.
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I would tell her to just be herself, and even though sometimes it might be hard to do tht it is at the very best the way to be honestly who you are. Most people do not want to be involved with a carbon copy of whatever the flavor of the day is, when they can have the original work of art that God created each of us to be. WHY BE A COPY WHEN YOU CAN BE AN ORIGINAL?
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