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Emo hairstyles :P and... other issues >.<
let's see i'm trying to make my hair emo style but i'm trying to figure how do you make your hair so straight? i used to comb my hair up all the time and make it spikey and i've been doing that almost forever but now i wanna try somthing new. i combed my hair down and it barely covers half of my forehead but it doesnt go straight all the way. the ends of the strands of my hair always curve to one direction and it doesnt stay straight down and look triangular shape-like. will it help to keep my hair combed down for a long time or is there a way to make it really straight? i'm a guy by the way and i don't wanna end up using a hair straightener unless there's a certain one for guys. i'm thinking of going to a place like Super Cuts and ask them to do it for me and if i do someday how much will a hair cut like that cost? and does anyone know a site with pictures of emo hairstyles? i want the kind where your hair is combed straight down and part of it covers one of your eyes. i've never really been to a barber before cause my mom usually gives me my hair cuts and i cant ask her for an emo one cause she doesnt like how my hair is combed down. and i know its ok to not care what other people think of you but what if its your parents? im getting tired of my mom saying that i look so ugly with my haired combed down. to me i dont look so bad and no one at school says anything about it. probably i'll look a little better once my acne disappears completely but still i want my mom to stop saying im ugly.
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Hey. Well, I don't all that much I can say about this, but I will warn you, if you chose to take Tina Duhh's advice, make sure you explain EXACTLY what you want, using the picture for reference, because some of my friends go in there with pictures and come out not looking like the picture at all. Of course, I was talking about my friends that are girls, but I guess it's the same thing. As for your mom not approving, neither does mine. All she does is complain and tell me how I could be so much prettier if I "was like I was before," becuase I used to be just about the preppiest girl you would ever meet. It was kinda gross. lol. So yeah anyways, my mom and dad make comments of how they don't approve of me, and how I'm a 'goth' all the time, when I'm most deffinatly NOT goth at ALL. Just forget about your mom, she needs time to ajust. Some people don't take change well, and seem to think that their way of life is the only proper way to do things. I'm not saying that your mom is one of those people, but you know how some people think that dresing 'emo' is wierd and scary and no one approves of it. Tell her it bothers you that she calls you ugly, becuase it's not like you go telling that to her. Just give her time, it will all be okay. If you want pictures of 'emo' haircuts and styles, or a place to get a straightener that is cheap and will work, let me know by leaving something in my inbox. And just so you know, it doesn't make you 'gay' or like any less of a guy if you straighten your hair, you just have curly hair and want it to be straight, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. I know guys that wear eyeliner and I don't think they're any less boyish. Just do what you want, and I really don't reccomend going to supercuts with pictures, becuase it never really works out.
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I don't believe that there are straighteners just for guys, but there's no shame in using one at all whether it's male or female. Since there probably are no male ones, your best bet would be to just suck it up & use one no matter what the gender.
For SuperCuts however, they probably wouldn't know what you were talking about, so you would need to bring in pictures where they could see all angles of the head so they can develop the sense of how to do the hairstyle & then ask an estimate of how much that would cost you. If you think it costs too much or that they'd fuck up your hair [which they might since they're probably not prone or experienced to doing that type of cut], maybe see if a friend cuts hair & can do it for you. Some of my friends cut their own hair & it looks really good so I trust them with my head to dye & cut & do whatever else. So maybe see if a friend could try it out for you.
As for your mother -- IN MY OPINION -- no, you shouldn't care what your mother thinks about you. I mean, yes she's your mother but choices about hair/clothing & whatever else are YOUR choices. She'll care what you do, but it's your head, it's your hair, why does it matter? My dad always used to yell at me for wearing short shorts or for wearing bikinis and there'd be this huge deal where I'd get mad and say "Well, it's not on your damn body so don't worry about what the fuck I'm wearing." and so on. However, I did see where he was coming from. I'm his daughter, his baby, his youngest & he was scared of me growing up. Scared of me going out & trying new things & scared of how guys would react when they saw me dressed a certain way. Basically, make YOUR OWN choices, BUT see it from your mom's point of view too. It makes things a whole lot easier between the two of you & you can explain that to her.
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save up for some straightening irons/straighteners they work wonders!
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Moms have a hard time with these things. I did a lot worse: complete lack of upkeep. I let myself get all greasy and put headphones over it. I was The Grudge long before it came out.
So maybe your mom just hasn't seen good examples of well-groomed, snappy emo kids with hair combed over one eye. Maybe she considers it purely unprofessional. Regardless, I'm sure there's an angle you could use to make her feel better.
Remind her that you still have time to try out styles for the fun of it, that you can adapt whenever you deem necessary, that you like the style and that you want to do it right. Point out that it maybe doesn't look right because you haven't had the chance to do it right.
Tell her that you want her direct mother-power hair guidance -- most women pray for daughters largely for that opportunity!
Past that point ... you *are* going to need a hair straightener. You are. Unless you want to play with a clothes-iron, which might not work the way you want, is much more cumbersome (imagine pressing your face against an ironing board), and much less exact. It doesn't have to be yours -- have your mom buy one and never tell anyone you used it. Or get one and decorate the handle.
If you're going to be part of a subculture that largely drops stereotypes, you might as well stop worrying about gender-marketing. The difference is all in the color of the packaging: they're taking you for a fool. Do not let them. You are not conformist.
Then, you'll need the right hair-straightening products. Look around for them; I think mousse is a good idea, as well as some sprays. Certain types of shampoo and conditioner will help, but won't avoid frizz, so other products are still important.
And if you're worried about your acne, there are plenty of skin products that will work for you, however they're gender-marketed. Make sure to clean your face once in the morning and once at night, and then moisturize with a face-lotion.
Don't ever leave something on your face over night while you sleep. Don't wash or moisturize on it's own -- washing will dry your skin out and make your skin overdo the natural oils, whereas moisturizing on it's own will layer lotion over natural oils, reaching the same effect. Clogged pores. Acne.
Drink water. Watch your diet.
But mostly, make sure your mom knows that you're trying to present yourself in a specific way because *you* like the look of it. You want her approval, but you can't just change what you like, so you want help achieving the look correctly -- not being left to half-ass it. And then let her know that you do take her concerns seriously, but you're young, and you have limited time to have fun with your appearance without worrying about the Office Dress Code, etc.
Hopefully, being reminded that you don't have so many appearance restraints as an independent adult, that you are making some effort at your appearance, and having her Wisdom at Fashion Sense invoked will help her feel more at ease.
If not, you'll have to find somewhere to hide your brand new hair-straightener.
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