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peer pressure
I am a 26 year old mom of 2 girls who has been dateing a 33 year old who has never been married and has no kids. He loves to play darts and is 3rd in the region. I want a family again and love him very much we do live together but the only problem is his bar buddy's always call him and want him to go down to the bar to "play" darts but then he comes home drunk.I don't know what to do especially when his friends say "ask your mom if you can come and play" He is so use to being a batchlor I don't think he knows how to handle it. How am I suppose to handle it?
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Easy,,,
You need a man who either has kids of his own or has been around kids.. this guy is there just for the free sex,, but he is still a kid in his heart..
it seems that he puts his friends before you...
BIG SIGN OF NO COMMITMENT
DO U SEE IT???
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You live together, but haven't said how long you've been together.
Living together, being a couple, means he needs to let go of his bachelor buddies and habits to accomodate his new life-- living with you and being a couple.
Tell him that you're unhappy with his bar hopping with his bachelor buddies at a moment's notice.
Tell him that, even though you're not married, you expect alittle more committed behavior to you.
Compromise. Tell him you don't mind him playing darts with his bachelor friends, but once a week, not at a moment's notice via phone call.
You have every right to be put first, not last as though you are his play toy when he's finished hanging with buddies.
And coming home drunk is not okay. One, he is driving drunk. Two, you have children and that is not cool or safe. Three, he could start to beat and hurt you one day.
Get a grip and get it now or kick him to the curb. He might not be committal material.
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Im only young, but Ive had a similar problem, but he just went to the pub and came back drunk.
You have to sit him down when hes in a good mood, and say either sort this out or im going to walk, it works everytime.
For the sake of your children aswell.
Or maybe ask one of his ''guy'' friends to speak to him, one who you know is serious about things, they often listen to their own kind.
The more you give, the more he will take..
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