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im a flirt
13/f
Ok, so everyone in my school calls me a slut and all the guys call me a flirt. i have seriously done nothing to deserve the label of "slut." And i flirt with everyone. Like this one guy in p.e i flirt with him and one day he started to like me... And EVERYONE tells me this. and i REALLY REALLY dont want a boyfriend. i guess im sort of a girl playerr. haha wow. But i really dont want to hurt his feelings. And he always calls me but its so awkward on the phone with him that i ignore his calls and tell him i lost my phone. (which i do lose my phone alot). everyone tells me hes going to ask me out soon!! and my friends are like i will hate you if you dont go out with him... because his bestfriend is who my friend likes. and i think thats really gay and fucked up to use me and stuff. so yeah. ANY ADVICE!?!
xoxoBriiii
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Totally agree with you, you're BEST FRIENDS saying theyd hate you if you didnt go out with him. just wait until he asks you out, and just say youre not interested in having a boyfriend. also, tell your best friends how you feel about them basically using you. friends shouldnt do that.
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Hi Brii.
Don't worry about the flirting at all, lol. We ALL do it. Apparently I flirt a lot but it's strange because I don't think I do and don't really notice it. However, everyone flirts in their own little way, some more than others. So don't let it bug you. Besides, your single and free so why shouldn't you be allowed to flirt - that's a part of being single and free. :]
As for this label of being a slut - just ignore it. Henerally it's probably all the guys who are jealous that they had no attention from you that are the ones going around saying this about you and the girls who are jealous of you (oh it happens apparently) also may have a big part in spreading rumors about how you're a slut. Just ignore it, it's just words at the end of the day. I usually take solice in the fact that if people feel they need to talk about me behind my back then I must have pissed them off a fair bit and that just gives me a nice warm feeling, hehe.
Anyway, as for this other guy who likes you. I think thebest thing to do, especially if you don't want a boyfriend and don't want to be tied down into a relationship and such, is to let him know as soon as possible that you're not interested in him in that way. Th longer you leave it the harder it may get especially with how it will be harder for him to accept and take. You may also want to ease down on the flirting with him becuae he may just keep getting the wrong impression/signals from your flirting. You know it's just flirting and nothing more but he is obviously assuming it's a lot more - better not to encourage what hethinks it is by doing it more with him. The best time to break it to him would be outside school since he may get quite upset so when he calls you next time just answer and talk to him. If you think he may ask you out or if you want just ask him about what people have been saying about how he is going to ask you out sometime. Then say to him that you heard this rumor from people and that you want him to know you don't want a bf because you're not interested in that right now. Oh, and ignore your friend. She's being ignorant. If she likes his friend she should go tell him instead of using you as well as this other guy to try get to his friend. If you do go out with him just for your friend then just remember you WILL hurt this guy a lot more when he finds out you had no feelings for him and the whole going out with him was a lie so your friend can get closer to his friend. He won't take in anything about your friend being the bad person - to him the bad person is going to be you. It's not something you need hanging over your head, especially the guilt that will come wiith it.
Good luck with everything and stay safe. :]
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