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He went to prom with her instead of ME!
For a LONG time, This guy likes me, and yesturday I just started liking him. He was talking to me and he's like flirting with me and stuff. I just cant stop thinking about this and him. He helped me with my homework, laughed, talked. But then I found out later that he was dating someone by one of my friends. My heart was crushed, and she's like OH YOUR JEALOUS. But really I didnt want to show it but I kind of am. I like him but then again I wonder why am I liking him? Hes not cute, but he has a great personality. The guy I like and the girl (who he is going to prom with) are going to prom today, and I cant go because I'm a sophmore and hes a junior. Which is even weirder is one of my other friends told me that the guy I like doesnt even want to go to prom with that girl. HE wants to go with me. But yea so proms tonight and Im wishing I can go. But I cant so any ideas how I should feel better about this?
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wow...I know what's you're going through. I've had my share of guys who show signs that they like me but they end up having girlfriend already which sucks. You need to keep in mind that he likes YOU and not the girl he's going to prom with. I know that it's hard knowing that he's with somebody else but he really likes you, not her. When he comes beack from prom, ask him how it went. Show that you're not upset that he didn't go with you because it will just show a sense of vulnerability. Be strong, and casual.
Also, I think that you and him should really talk about your relationship as friends so if you two want to take it a step further. I know it may be uncomfortable, that's totally normal, but this teasing and acting like you guys like eachother but not saying anything is getting you two nowhere. You guy both like eachother, but you're keeping it inside, holding on to a relationship that could get serious. If you think that you two are meant to be, go for it. Yes, it will hurt his girlfriend but in a way it's no fair to her b/c she's getting fooled by a guy who doesn't even like her.
Sleep on it, and really think about how you're going to break it to him b/c talking is a good way to clear the air of bottled emotions.
Good Luck! I have faith in you =)
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Tough situation. Don't blame him for taking another girl to the prom because he's liked you for a "long" time and you haven't started liking him back until recently.. So it's not like he should be blamed for not waiting forever for you to like him (although you say he still likes you.) Maybe he wasn't sure if you liked him so he invited another girl to the prom to see your reaction and whether you would get jealous or not. Guys act weird sometimes. But don't ruin his night tonight by being like "I like you a lot" and making him feel guilty for taking another girl to the prom because everyone deserves a good prom night. It's too late for him to ask you to the prom anyways since he already has a date and it's the DAY of the prom, so wait a couple days before letting him know how you feel. If he still likes you, which you say he does, than he'll tell you that he likes you back. Don't wait a year to show your feelings because he can easily move on. Just enjoy the weekend and don't let this boy ruin your Saturday. Trust me, if he's liked you and waited around for you for a LONG time, than another couple of days won't hurt him.
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-Candace =)
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Oh, dear. If you liked him and wanted him to invite you to prom, the time to say something would have been about February. Right now he may like you, but he's already obligated to this other girl who has probably bought a dress, is right now having her hair and nails done, may have hired a limo and had dinner reservations, etc. He can't dump her just because a cute new girl flirted with him. So that's just the way things go, dear. Next year you'll be able to go and have fun. Maybe you'll even be able to go as a couple who've been together for a year at that point. But it's just too late for him to change his mind about the other girl right now and you just can't expect otherwise. To feel better, find a friend or a few, and if your parents allow, have a girls' night and sleepover with movies (scary, romantic, whatever) or do something else to keep your mind off prom and your guy-interest.
Sabine
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