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Best Friend/Long Time Crush
Sorry, this is going to be pretty long but I'd really appreciate it if you could help =) I'm 14/f and my bffl since 6th grade is 15/m and we're both in 9th grade right now. I've had this major crush on him since 6th grade and I still have feelings for him but he doesn't feel the same way for me. From the beginning to now in a nutshell:
In 6th grade, no one really noticed him but me and we're still the bestest of friends and we have one too many inside jokes. But in 7th grade, he started skating and then girls were all "Aww" on him. Then in 8th grade, he got a band and they were drooling all over him. And I'm kind of jealous, I guess you can say, because I hate the fact that these girls are all over him just because he's in a band. Most of them don't even know that he has a little temple in his closet dedicated to Kiss. Woah. Rambling. Moving on. Anyways, I still like him but I'm still confused by him. I don't know if he's being friendly or not but he and I get a long very well and most of the times, people don't know what we're talking about because they're all inside jokes. We're constantly doing stupid things together and playing around. And then recently I started wearing my lip ring again and he said somethings like "Hey cutie. That looks cute" And now I'm very confused as to if he's just being friendly or more. But then I'm confused about a whole different thing. Well, not confused but kind of worried? I don't want to lose him as my bffl but sometimes I get worried that he'll ditch me and get carried away by his band and all the girls that are all over him. And I really do like him a lot but I don't want to ruin our friendship. Gah, I'm rambling.
Anyways, my questions are:
1. Do you/guys have the same problems with liking a friend but not wanting to ruin the friendship?
2. If so, what do you guys do or what do you do?
3. What should I do?
4. Do you think that my bffl is just being friendly or more?
Sorry this was so freakishly long...
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1. i have a really close guy friend that i tell everything to and we talk about EVERYTHING. EVERYTHING. and me and him both have had the problem. for him, he basically fell in love and got his heart stomped on. it's really sad and i really hate it. for me though things went really different. there's a girl, we were friends, and then we kinda started liking each other but one thing we promissed each other was that we'd always be friends because well... really i don't think i could live without her. we aren't going out anymore but that because something happened and yeah longer story. so yeah definitally, definitally, definitally.2. well yeah i said what i did, but i don't think that making a promiss to each other that you'll always be friend can always work, i'm glad me and my friend girl did it but it's not always going to work.3. you two sound really good for each other, can get alone, you like him and i'm not sure if he likes you, but i'm almost positive he'd want to take a shot at it. you guys sound pretty close so this sounds like something you can just bring up while talking and just talk about.(one thing i learned is you have to make sure you go slow in the relationship if you want it to go smoothy. speeding it up complecats things a lot)4.by the way you told me about him, i kinda would want to know this guy, and if he is how i think he is, he's being more, but just to make sure you can always ask him. with me and friend, (a really long story but again shorter verson) she just asked me if i liked her on day. and yeah i kinda did... a lot. and luckly she felt the same way.(i'm really really really shy. big time) talking is the most important thing. sorry for answering so long, and yeah some of it you might not get but i hope i still answered you questions okay.
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