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He is a She.
I've been talking to this guy through Myspace and MSN for over a month. I liked him so much, and we were I don't want to say dating, but sort of "involved" over the computer. He was so different from other boys...and now I know why. "He" is a girl.
She looks just like a guy, and all of her Myspace pictures were really of her! She didn't tell me she was a girl. I messaged one of her friends and said, "Hi I'm *Bob's (not her real name) friend. I really like him." and her friend messaged me back and said, "*Bobs my friend, but she is a girl." I told Bob this and he admitted it and said, "I shouldn't be a girl. I should be a guy."
I am heartbroken. This wasn't just some fake Myspace. This was a real person that's face looked like a guy's. (Obviously shes not, after she showed me a picture of her standing.)
Does this mean I'm a Lesbian? In a way, I feel like I still have feelings for Bob. But I think its just because I liked "him" so much that I'm having a hard time letting go of the fact that "he" is not a he. I know that Bob still has feelings for me. This is so weird. I feel like maybe I should be a Lesbian since thats the only people that are attracted to me. I want to still be Bob's friend, we had such a good thing going. Should I stay her friend/ keep talking to her?
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first off you shouldn't be so worried about labels because they are stupid if you love her it's fine because you love her for who she is not because she's a girl or a boy. second of all you could be bisexual and like guys and girls but i don't know if this would really count for being bi or les but what ever, and yeah you should keep talking to them if it made/makes you happy
- jess
p.s. (i believe love has no gender so i guess that makes me bisexual)
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You are not the first and won't be the last person deceived through the internet. We have become a society that relies heavily upon computers for communication, but the net makes it that much easier to hide behind untruths and make-believe identities. Pictures can be deceiving and this person purposely lied to you and manipulated the situation. You were tricked. Why do you think only lesbians are attracted to you? I doubt that is really the case. You can only be Bob's friend if you have an honest and trusting relationship. It sure did not start that way, so be cautious. Feelings can also be deceiving and can come and go quickly. Don't ever base a life decision on feelings alone. We need to be intellectually and emotionally balanced. I would expand my circle of friends to include those that are not hiding behind false identities. If this girl wants to be a lesbian or become transgendered it is her business, but you should never put up with being manipulated and lied to by anyone.
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Um..I don't think you're a lesbien.
For example, Transgendered guys. They're dressed like girls (some even got surgery) and hoping to get married some day. Real guys might like one of the ones that really look like girls and not know that she is really a he because the surgery's really good. It doesn't mean they're gay, they just fell in love with someone they thought they knew.
But still, talk to her =)
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well umm you arent necessarily a lesbian because you thought she was a guy. You can still talk to her, but um it might be kind of awkward. I think you should be telling this to her though. stay her friend, i think thats best. im sorry this answer isnt really long or anything its a really tough question.
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No, it means you were attrached to a woman who just looks like a girl.
She looked like a guy and had the persona of a guy, therefore you liked the guy and when you found out the truth a bright "wtf?" went through your mind.
By all means don't stop talking to her, you have no reason to. But explain to her that you were digging something you thought was real but wasn't.
No point to not talk to her.
-Ryan
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Well romantically wise, thats a question only you can answer for yourself. But either way you should still be her friend.
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