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He's so confusing...
this is super long, sorry!
Alright, I'm 16/f, and there's a guy I like, he's almost 18. I'd think we're pretty good friends, we met at the beginning of the school year, and we were assigned to work together on a year-long project. He's totally sweet and cute, and one of my good guy friends.
He has a girlfriend (i've seen them together, and she treats him terribly, and they always fight, but apparantly now they've exchanged promise rings?), he's only mentioned her to me twice, not by name, and one time he mumbled and lowered his voice when he said it.
He's ALWAYS doing flirty things. We've talked a LOT about important things. I'll give you some examples:
-ear blowing
-leg rubbing
-back massages
-ALWAYS doing silly stuff/stuff to freak me out, like giving me a condom for christmas
-one time, he said that my shirt was interesting, and i got all confused, and he said don't worry about it and was going to pat me on the shoulder but i freaked and said, 'no, don't, i have cat hair on it,' and he said, 'oh, okay, then,' and started to walk away, ran back to me, ran his hand down my arm, and grinned.
-he's talked about how nervous he is for college, and how one time he got so stressed out that he experimented with weed.
-he's always doing favors for me.
-he asked me to do his stage makeup for him, and was teasing me about whether or not i knew what i was doing (I thought he was serious, but my friend, who i completely trust and would not lie to me told me he said it jokingly)
-but recently, he's started giving me handshakes, which are apparantly done in a jokey way as well
This is only a scratch on the surface of all of the things that have happened. Should I tell him I like him? Does he like me (my friends who've seen us together think so.) He's a senior, and so will be going to college (6 hours away, where his gf goes, too), we're friends on facebook so we can keep in touch through that. but time is running out, I need to know what I need to do. I don't want to mess up our friendship, but I feel like I'm lying to him by not telling him how I feel.
Thanks if you can help!
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I agree with Tina. You really need to use caution with this one. He is 18 and going away soon. He has a girlfriend and has given her a pre-engagement promise ring. That means they are serious. Fight all the time or not.
He could just be a real friendly guy or he could be
using you too. Ear blowing and leg rubbing are not something you want your guy doing to another girl.
If you look at it like that, he isn't real trustworthy. He does those things to you, he could
easily do it with others.
Hes going to college with her. That should tell you something. Don't do anything you will be embarrassed by later. :)
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I think he likes you, but you should hold off on telling him you like him for a while. He does have a girlfriend & whether she treats him like shit or not, they're still together. Don't make a move or tell him anything until they are 100% broken up with NO chances of getting back together. I'm pretty sure if you were his girlfriend & someone did that to you, you'd be pissed. And besides, if she can make his life horrible, imagine what she can do to yours. Just wait it out, and then tell him.
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Well, of what you said, i think hes just afraid to break up with his girlfriend. but he secretly likes you.
Is he the type that flirts with like a ton of girls? or is it like you and only you?
if its you and only you, i'd ask him about his girlfriend. like if there really close and stuff.
if he says no not really, and stuff like that, you should tell him how you feel. your right, your running out of time, im facing like the same problem.
ahh do it. if you guys are true friends, it wont mess up the friendship. it will just make things a little awkard, if he doesnt like you back.
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