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ok i have 2 good friends and one is named julie and one is named chelsea well julie and chelsea hate each other and they recently wanted to fight each other so there parents and the school had to get involved, but thats not the problem, so julie told me if me and julie want to be friends then i have to choose either julie or chelsea and i know thats not right and im not gonna be picking friends. i dont have a lot of friends to begin with so now i want to make new friends, but im kinda shy and i dont know what to talk to anyone about, so how can i make new friends.
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well first of all, i dont think you have to give up both friends. i mean, you arent part of their little feud, so if you like them both as friends and want to continue like being friends with both of them, then do that anyway. im sure that if like chelsea found out that you were still friends with Julie, she'll still be your friend if she values your friendship. and vice versa. if they get pissed about it and dont wanna be friends with you, then they probably arent the best friends for you since they dont value you for your differences. i mean, usually when a girl hates another girl they'll tell their friends not to associate them with the person. its pretty stupid, but i guess girls (and boys too i guess.. mostly with girls though) find power in numbers. but if you dont want to be friends with one of them then go for it. same if you dont want to be friends with them at all. just break it to them gently, dont just like totally ignore them or they might get mad at you too. but if i were you, i'd just be friends with both and see what happens.
im kinda shy too about making new friends, especially around now that the school year is almost over and people generally already have friends. but just talk about the things you like.. like hobbies, sports, etc. maybe if you liked soccer and found someone else that liked soccer, you could talk to them about the sport and then like ask about other things they like, ask about their family and etc, and remember to smile and act interested in talking to them! haha.. but dont be something your not.. people will eventually tell your faking. even if you act like a complete dork in reality, just act that way and people will love you for being yourself.. haha i know it sounds crazy but i know people like that and i think its cool that they're so comfy about being themself. also remember to have good manners and stuff like that. ok if you cant do that then like in the hallway like find someone that you'd like to get to know.. say like "hey, whats up?" or "any plans for the weekend?" if you cant do that, maybe if they're a girl like compliment their outfit or wave and give them a smile when you see them. after doing that, like you already got some extra points because you made that person feel better about themself and they'll wanna be around you more.
this was really long.. haha well i hope i answered your question! ask if you need any other help!
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