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Would you wait
my friend been ask out by 3 guys and she trun them all down. she doesnt know why all sudden she became popural with the guys and i told her it just happens.
she said that she wants to wait till after college. but the more you wait the more your love life goes down the hill, right?
i dont care when someone ask me out cause i dont want to wait for the right time it just happens. (i always had feelings for her)
i ask her what kinda guy she is looking for her reply is
"no idea"
i laugh and said"no idea, so you dont know who you looking for?"
she said"nope i dont know, maybe someone funny i guess?"
(i thought to myself well i'm funny and i love to make her laugh.)
does she mean me? i told her "well i'm looking for someone who likes me who i am" she laugh and said "yeah okay if that happens" and i said "i agree with that"
(cause i'm such a hot head and i dont think someone can handle that.) but she can and i was trying to hint her that i mean her, i want someone like her.
so what you think?
was there something going on?
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tell her u like her cuz then there might be a something going on
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In order to answer this, it would really be helpful to know your gender. As it is, I'll answer it twice.
(1) Assuming you're a guy -
It's entirely possible that the reason she hasn't been taking anyone up on their offers is because she's waiting for YOU to make a move. Maybe you're both dancing around the issue and waiting for the other one to say something, but neither of you dares to do it because it really sucks when you admit to a friend that your feelings go deeper than friendship and they don't feel the same. And, of course, it is also possible that friendship IS all she feels for you.
You don't know. And that's part of the game of love. You have to take chances.
But don't drop suddenly to one knee and declare your undying love. If she happens to feel the same way, that will work, but otherwise it will scare the hell out of her and ruin any chance you'll ever have. You need to approach the situation carefully, feel your way, and give her a chance to get used to this new way of seeing you. Use your previous conversation as an intro:
"You know how the other day we were talking about what kind of guy or girl we were each looking for to go out with? Well, I was thinking about it, and it sounded to me like we were describing each other... was it just me?"
Take her hand at this point and look her in the eyes. She'll get what you're driving at.
If she turns you down initially, DON'T despair or otherwise lose it. She may yet come around, but it sometimes takes time for people to see old friends in a new light. Just tell her that you understand, but you hope that she won't write you off completely, and point out the advantages like how she knows she can trust you and that you already get along so well.
There's a chance that she'll never come around, in which case you'll just have to get used to the idea. It may become very difficult for you to watch her dating other guys and such, and your friendship may not survive that. But it's better than never trying, and never knowing whether it might have been.
(2) If you're a girl -
Most of the above applies as well, but there's another element there which is that it's far less likely that she'll return those feelings - in fact, she may be totally freaked out by them. You'll need to avoid giving her the double-shock of (a) your orientation, and (b) the fact that you're attracted to her. Breach those subjects one at a time, and make sure she can deal with the first one before you spring the second one on her.
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I think you should tell her how you feel, I'm sure there would be a possibility of her liking you and beng in the same situation as you are.
And yes, there could have been but I wouldn't know, I don't know her so I can't say.
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