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I can't hang out with my BEST FRIEND!
Hey, it's x0xJENNiFERx0x. Recently I've really been hanging with my neighbors a lot. We like do EVERYTHING together. There's not a single thing we don't tell each other. We are both girls but there is a BIG age difference between us. Sara [ my neighbor ] is 19 and I am 14. See the difference.
Well one day, Sara's dad started to talk to my mom. Which is a casual thing since we are nieghbors. I figured they were talking about cars.
Well, when my mom was done, she came inside, and got REALLY mad because she thinks I am starving myself but I am not. My mom is the kind of mom that ALWAYS works. She never even sees me. In conclusion, she thinks I'm starving myself!!! I eat but not when she is home! She even told me 'EWWW your so fat!!!'
Sara's dad thinks the reason for that is because Sara one had an eating disorder. I WAS LIKE...WTF! THAT WAS LIKE 1 YEAR AGO!
They say we go on the computer and search on Froogle for food we can't have!!!
I got really mad because, since I am Asian, my parents are very strict. For my family doesn't have the greatest reputation, they want me to be this smart-stay away from boys- kinda girl.
Since Sara has a boyfriend [ Kyle ] my mom has become even more strict. Like, one time, Kyle was tickling me and my parents were like 'that young boy shouldn't be touching you that way.'
Okay, no offense to my parents, but I need a social life. I am excluded from school because I am an Asian so i really don't have close friends. Sara was the first to except that I am Asian and doesn't care.
Since Sara lives so close, I can just walk to her house to hang out. BUT, now it all changes because of her parents and MINE.
URRRGHHHHHHHH! :-[
Am I taking this too far? I just want to hang and chill with my best friend. What is a girl to do???
Sincerly,
FRANTIC FRIEND.
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Hi x0xJENNiFERx0x.
I can relate, I am also asian and my parents were like that ALL the time. All my friends were friends I had at school. Out of school there were no friends and I had no one to really hang out with apart from my cousin. Even when one of my friends came by mine to see if I wanted to hang out (she was a girl, I'm a guy) my parents got really weird with me about hanging out with girls when I should be studying etc, etc, etc (I'm sure you get the idea). It's not just you it happens to I've also been there and to a degree am still stuck there which is a real pain in the ass.
All you can really do is try explain to your parents that you're not starving yourself because you're smarter than that. Telling your kids they are fat is a very stupid thing to do in my opinion and when my uncle used to say that to his daughter (younger than me but we get along really, really well) I remember how one my other family members 'told him off' about it saying how that can be very bad for a kids self esteem.
I wouldn't say you're taking this too far at all to be honest and as I said, I'm asian too so I know how it can be virtually impossible to try explain your side of things when parents just never listen and no matter what it is - they are right and you're wrong. All you can really do is try and talk to them and sort it out or come to some kind of arrangement (stress that you won't hang out with your friend unless it's just you and her and her bf won't be there) and how, if they want to, they can see what you look up on the internet and how it's nothing to do with stuff you shouldn't eat and such.
It's hard but at the end of the day they are trying to look out for you. Although I do appreciate it with my parents I have to admit a lot of things I do I can't even tell them the truth about because they just won't listen or understand my side of things. Doing it behind their back is all well and done but at the end of the day I feel if I'm not doing anything wrong I shouldn't have to lie about it. It's really stupid. Bare in mind though I am NOT saying to meet your friend behind their back and such. Trust me they WILL find out and it will just make you look even more guilty in their eyes. Just try and talk to them or try let them cool down and make them understand everything your friends dad is afraid of isn't true.
Good luck and feel free to write if I can heklp any more. :]
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