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stuck in a rutt should i move on
Hi
Everything in my life has built up to a head and im not happy anymore. I moved into a new home before christmas with my son and his father which i was happy about at the time as it was a fresh start for us as a family. we moved in around october last year as since then we have been tormmented by our neighbour its as if she is living with us and our son can hardly play in his own home. To top this all off iv had alot of problems in my job which is very close to where we live and apart from feeling so insecure in my life at this time my relationship does not seam to offer me any comfort as my boyfriend has his own problems and is going through a devorce from a relationship he had years ago he also has children from this relationship. this may all seam like alot going on and it is, i have always tried to make a good life for us but everything is falling apart. Im starting to think i should make a fresh start with just myself and my son as i can not see anything improving here in my relationship, home or job i love my son to bits and only want the best for him to. Has anyone ever made a fresh break like this that turned out for the better that they could advise me on what steps to take im not really finantially secure at the moment, but im not afraid to work. so i knok we would be ok regards money.
Thanks for reading
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Are you buying the home? Are you renting a house, duplex, or apartment? I don't know how the neighbor could keep your son from being able to play, even inside, unless you share walls and she's being picky about noise. Is your lease almost up, or up in 6 months? Can you last that long?
Are you in love with your boyfriend and do you want to work it out? Do you want to be with him as he's going through this, and do you think he'll be there for you when you go through your life challenges? If you're not in love with him and the relationship is not worthwhile, I suggest that you move out and find a lawyer. You should have court-mandated child support. That's not being mean - it's only fair. You may not be afraid to work, but you may have to work several jobs to support yourself and your child. Is that what's in his best interests? To be at daycare all day every day so you can make ends meet? Hold your bf responsible for the child he helped create.
I have to say that the steps you'd need to take are to get a new job where you're making enough money to support yourself and your child on your own somewhere between where you are now and where you want to live. Then find an apartment or house and move out, explaining to your bf that this is the end of the romantic relationship and you expect him to live up to his responsibilities to his child. Then you move on.
I have had to leave my job, my home, and most of my things and move, but I always had my boyfriend/husband. I'm sorry you're in the situation where you have to choose, but sometimes the brave thing to do is to leave a bad situation.
Best of luck to you.
Sabine
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okay. just to start i havnt made a fresh new start like this but as i read it sounds like you should start a fresh start with only you and your son at this moment your boyfriend has alot to think about and if its not improving then maybe you need a break. it sounds like a alot of work but you can do it. hope this helps.=]
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