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what's in his mind?
I've been dating this guy for only one month but I really fell inlove with him because he was so nice, sweet, he cared for me and it seems like he was so inlove with me. He always told me that I'm the only one for him and that he wouldn't look for another girl. He has promised me that he wouldn't leave me and that he would love me for the rest of his life. He shares his every problem to me and he always asked to please not leave him. He was so thoughtful that he was texting me every single minute just to say he loves me and he misses me. Everything was so great until last week. Last saturday, he was busy because of the pageant that he would be joining. He couldn't text me like every single minute that he usually does. I know that it was my fault because I was so paranoid. I called him after the pageant and asked him why he didn't text or call me. He said that he was busy and hoped that i would understand. But stupid me, i didn't understand him and told him that it was better without a bf because i could concentrate on my studies like before. He was hurt on what i've said because this guy is a very sensitive guy. He didn't text or call me anymore and he didn't answer my call. I said that i was sorry but he didn't forgive me. Two days have passed still no call and messages from him. It was really hard for me,i was so annoyed so i texted him and told him to talk to me and tell me what was the problem. Still no reply. I asked my sister to call him, she asked her what's up with me and him. He told her that he loves me but he also said that i only think of my feelings. Instead of asking him how was the pageant, I nagged him and asked him why he didn't call me. After a few minutes of conversation with my sister, he broke up with me, he said that it really hurt him what i did. I know that it was my fault but if he really loves me, he would forgive me right? I begged him to come back to me but he said that it would be the best if we'll be friends. He said that it's also for my own good and that he doesnt want to hurt me. He said that it was not his intention to hurt me. I know that he has other reason why he broke up with me. He wouldn't rtell me that it was not his intention to hurt me if he's only reason for breaking up is that i hurt his feelings. Now i'm thinking that maybe he has found another girl. He doesn't want to tell me what was the reason. The last time i called him, he picked it up luckily, i told him that i love him and that i miss him. He said that he loves me too and that he misses me too. but after we hanged up the phone, he sent me a message and told me again that it would be better if we would just be friends. I really want to know the reason but he doesn't tell me. What's this? Last week, he still loved me and now, he doesn't love me anymore? That quick? What do you think, did he already find a new girl that's why he didn't do his promise that he'll never replace me? We don't have communication now, he doesn't call me anymore nor text me. It really hurts me. But his status on his site is still in a relationship, he still didnt change it single like what i did. And below his site, there is word "I Love You" there. I don't know if that's for me or for other girl. Please help me, it's confusing. I don't know what was his reason for leaving me. Thanks in advance..
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I've seen plenty of cases where guys have changed their feelings quickly. Why is this? No one knows, not even a guy. You did the best you could. He's right, maybe you should have taken his pagent into consideration first instead of asking him why he didn't call/text, but he took it out of proportion. He should have reacted the way he did, but he shouldn't have behaved the way he did. Everyone makes mistakes, therefore you have to forgive them. That he did not do. If he does truly love you, you'll be together. Maybe not now, maybe not any time soon, but eventually. You may not want to wait around forever though. It is your decision. You didn't do anything wrong after. You appologized, told him how you feel, etc. What else could you do? Not too much. Try talking to him about it again in detail. If he still says he only wants to be friends, respect that. If you seriously can't be friends with him anymore, let him know that. You shouldn't really jump to conclusions that it is another girl, but its only natural to think that way. It may not be though. He could just be a sensitive guy. Talk to him about it. If he is your friend & if he loves you, he'll listen. You guys just need to communicate & everything will go from there.
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hey!
I know this is really tough for you, but I think you are obsessing a little bit. I know this is a tough situation and everyone has different ways of handleing it, but you need to calm down and think about it alittle bit more. Yeah theres the possibility he lied and wanted to date someone else, but maybe he does feel unloved and uncared for.
I know you're confused and you wnat answers, but he isnt giving them to you right now, so maybe you should calmly try and stop bothering him. Instead of nagging him and asking him why he broke up with you, ask him how his day is going and how the pagent went. Tell him you miss him and you wish you and him could work things out, but if you cant then you understand.
I'm sure he hasnt stopped loving you yet, I think he just needs a break. Every relationship goes through this type of thing where you need some time off, and he's going through that right now. So your best bet, if you want him back, is to give him some space and let him take his own path. Hopefully you'll get back together, but if he decides to move on, then ask him one day why it is he broke up with you.
For the meantime, try and kep up the conversation with him letting him know you care, whether or not it will save your relationship I don't know, but if you continue to ask how he is then maybe it will help him to know you are still trying.
Obviously something is wrong, and if you are willing to fix it then I'm sure it;s not over for good. Let me know if you want anymore help (I have lots of moving on tips if you need them eventually) or have any questions. Hope I helpped, love ya,
Angie91
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