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sex isn't what i dreamed of.
I've had sex with 2 people in my life, 1 of them is my current boyfriend. I've never had an orgasm and I've had sex many times with many positions. Sometimes I don't even enjoy it. It's obviously not the guy, because both of them couldn't get me to climax. I don't know what's wrong! I want to have an orgasm and nothing is working, even though I'm completely in love.
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Do not despair, girlchild!
In the words of author Chuck Palahniuk, "Nothing can ever be as good as you imagine it." So true, so true. Sometimes we build sex up in our minds to be this lifechanging, earth shattering thing, and we end up dissapointed. It's a beautiful and wonderful act, but it's not always as much of a pivotal moment as we build it up to be.
As far as having an orgasm: You are not alone! Many, many, MANY women don't experience orgasms until they've been sexually active for many years, and still other women don't EVER experience orgasm. Some women report that they aren't ever able to reach orgasm with vaginal penetration.
There are many reasons why you may not be reaching orgasm. Your mind may be somewhere else, or you may be so focused on getting off that you can't get there in the first place.
I recommend going at it alone: MASTURBATE! Find out what gets you going and where you like to be touched and where your buttons are. Can you reach orgasm by yourself? If you can, communicate with your boyfriend and try to get him near the spots that you hit when you're alone. Perhaps employ the use of clitoral vibrators during intercourse, or have your lover stimulate your clit manually. Also, you can try having sex in the doggystyle or another rear entry position so that your partner hits your G-spot, the area at the lower front of your vagina on your urethral sponge. For information on the different types of orgasms and how to reach them, Tristan Taormino, a former employee of Toys in Babeland, has written an excellent book called Down and Dirty. I highly recommend it----it's pretty much a manual about how to get off.
Most of all, communicate with your partner and let them know what feels good and what doesn't. I can't stress communication enough. It's the most important element.
Good luck!
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I don't know how old you are but it's a known issue that at least 50% of women don't have orgasms till they are in their mid to late twenties. some women even longer.
As far as not enjoying it, If the man isn't taking the time to get you aroused and ready the enjoyment will not be their, men are wire differently from women, it usually takes a women "awhile" to warm up and be ready for sex. Do a little self exploratory(masturbation) and see what's it like for you and maybe it wil be better.
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It depends on if you want to have a clitoris orgasm believe it or not i am 14 and started having sex wen i wuz 10 but by the time i hit the age of 13 and had experimented with every position you could think of i had gotten a clitoris and g-spot orgasm so it depends on experience
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