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ok i have a problem. my boyfriend and i have been having sex for about a month now and i still havent been able to have an orgasm yet. hes getting frustrated and thinks its his fault but i know thats not the case. n e suggestions on helping me to have one?
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It's neither your fault or his and you better tell him that. Pressure to have one or stress over it especially put on you by him will make t so you won't have one. It's something that happens naturally and cannot be forced.
Like the other person said most women don't climax (orgasm) through vaginal intercourse alone. This is something you should also tell him so he stops piling frustration on you.
You'll probably find that foreplay including clitoral stimulation etc. etc. will lead to an orgasm as that's what happens with a lot of women and neither he nor you should feel bad about not having it through sex. It's not anyone's fault and he's no less a lover or any belief he has about that.
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A lot of women don't orgasm simply through intercourse.
What might help is extending foreplay... make sure he gets you to the limit before you have sex.
If that doesn't work, you can always 'lend a hand'... if you know what you like, just stimulate yourself during sex. Make sure it's allright with your boyfriend first... let him know that he really turns you on, but because of the way women are built, you need stimulation in a different way. It's great eye candy for them, and you get to have your orgasm (or orgasms!)
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Do not rush through sex. It may be that what is missing for you is relaxation and much more foreplay. (and I mean longer than 30 seconds!!)
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