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can you ever love some too much? how would you know if some one is completely happy with you and you're not sufficating them? the person I'm speaking of is my husband and I'm truly in love with him he's my world. can any body help me? thanks.........
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ok, before you resort to some advice website, you have to ask a question that isnt common sense
but of course, the peole at first would have to find the initial question in the first place
my answer: no
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I don't believe that there is such a thing as "loving someone too much." I do however believe that there is such a thing as suffocating someone in a relationship.
I can't say whether or not you are. You didn't go into detail. I will say this... One common error I've noticed that both men and women make in relationships... Is that they tend to try to spend every waking moment of spare time together.
Why is this a problem? Because BOTH men and women need time away from each other... Time to be alone and by themselves... Time to be alone with their family... Time to be alone with their friends. There's nothing wrong with this. It's part of maintaining your own individuality and personal autonomy. I've seen couples become so involved in their relationship that they loose that sense of individuality and then problems in the relationship start to occur.
If this is the case with you... Realize that he may need a little time to himself. And then let him have that time. Also realize that when he is by himself... It doesn't mean that he loves you any less or doing anything that he shouldn't be doing. You need to trust him... Because without trust, no relationship can survive.
I would also suggest going to the book store and buying a book called, "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus," by Dr. John Gray. Excellent book that explains some of the common problems men and women encounter, why they happen, and what to do about it. He also has a slew of other books, all about relationships.
If you have any more questions, please leave me a message in my inbox. I don't have all the answers, but I can at least talk to you and try to help you. ;)
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"...he's my world." This is the heart of the matter. You need to rely less on him being your world and give him space. It is too much pressure on both of you to be this intense. He is only a man, and cannot be your private god. It is not good to worship or be worshiped by another human. This places both persons on unequal footing and prevents true partnership. Expand you love and interest to many things outside of him and your identity as his wife. You will only be a bore to be around if you narrow yourself to being all about him and you will stop growing into your genuine real self and all the potential you have as an individual. Often we obsess on someone as our everything, one true love, savior, protector or defender, because we are afraid we cannot exist or do not deserve to exist alone. This is dangerous to your soul. If he has already complained then you know that you need to make a decision right now to expand your passion and meaning in life immediately. Love him enough to let him remember why he loves you, because if you continue to suffocate him he will forget the thrill of seeking you out and why you are so dear to him.
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love is love. and you can't suffocate someone with it. it's supposed to be a very positive thing, love. if you feel like you're "suffocating" him maybe you should think about why you feel this way. are you controlling him because you always want his attention or his time? are you constantly bothering him when hes trying to work? there's silly little things that you can hold to a minimum while still loving someone the same. talk to him about it, after all he is your husband. if he think's you're coming off really strong lately then just back off, it might help to simply write your feelings for him in a journal instead of CONSTANTLY trying to SHOW him how you feel.
good luck.
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