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This what am dealing with
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I'm bi and i dont like watching or going to gay bars because i feel uncomfertable. but she told me last time that someone at her job ask her to go with them someday. she said she is not old enough yet to go in a bar, and she will like to go to just watch. i was shocked when she said that. but i dont except my sexually because its new to me, and she been acting odd to me lately and thats what made me grain feelings for her, for exsample,
when we walk together she walks close to me, talk with a teasing soft voice, laughs at me when i make a fool of my self, text message me whenever she is bored and you text for two hours, leans on my shoulder or has her arm around me and calls me cute funny animal nicknames.
i didnt think of it at first untill i saw couples do it too, and when she does that i get butterflys. we are like sisters we talk about men but we are too close of friends.
so what would you say to get my courge to talk to her?
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***EDIT: The first question I answered, you didn't say how she talks and acts around you. I told you that your chances were 50/50. I changed my prediction of your chances to 90/10 after I read the information you gave about her on this question.***
Yah, you're right. Bars are a bad idea if you would be uncomfortable there.
Go to a gay bar to "just watch"? Well, I take that statement as meaning "check out the scenery." Otherwise, if she isn't old enough to drink, a bar wouldn't be any sort of fun. It seems to me that she is dropping some serious hints to you, and not all of them are what I would call... subtle. ;)
Something to give you courage. Hmm..
Make yourself comfortable with the situation, first. The more nervous and uncomfortable you are, the harder it will be. Invite her out for an evening spent together. Doing something that will make it a relaxing comfortable evening.
Maybe invite her to join you on a dinner date. Maybe take her to a nice restaurant. It doesn't have to be a high dollar place- just some place that has a ring of intimacy to it. We are both women- I'm sure you know as well as I, that a nice dinner with such a laid back setting is a good mood-setter. ;)
Maybe have a drink to help calm your nerves, if you are of age. But I wouldn't suggest you have more than the one drink.
Maybe after dinner, do something that has a romantic quality. A stroll in the park, or someplace quiet and serene.
I guess basically romance her for an evening. Don't spend the whole time being nervous and fretting about telling her your feelings. Sit back, relax, and enjoy her company.
Then, when you are hanging out alone together and she starts talking to you in that voice- I would say that would be the most opportune time to bring it up. ;)
By the way, have you dropped any hints to her? Do you talk to her in a voice like that, or anything else to give her an idea that you are interested in her? If not, you really, really need to.
All I know, from what you have described of her here, that it seems to me that she is interested in you as more than a friend. I think the hint-dropping is because maybe she, like you, is afraid to tell you how she feels. You may both be sitting there, right now, thinking how much you want to give it a shot, but each are afraid to tell the other out of fear of spoiling your friendship.
P.S. With the added info- 90/10 shot at a positive reaction. ;)
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