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I have feelings for her, but...
16/m Ok, so I have grown extremely close to a girl, and we are best friends now. Lets call her Betty for this. However, this girl happens to be one of my best friend's(who we will call Bob) girlfriend. Now, they have been dationg for close to 3 years...since before I met either of them.
Betty is everything I would look for in a girlfriend...she is pretty, smart, funny, and we just get along so well. I don't want to have feelings for her, but i can't help it. I would never want to move on these feelings because Bob is a close friend of mine. People have also told me that they think she likes me too.
About 2 months ago I got into a huge fight with Bob, because he was mad at me because Betty was flirting with me, even though I was not flirting back.
Betty flirts with me all the time, and always tells me how Bob is being a jerk to her. Now they are boken up but still kinda together, and she always talks to me about how he is an @$$hole.
Basically I just need to know what I can do. I have feelings for her that I do not want to have, but I can't help it. Bob is too good of a friend to lose over a girl, and I never want to lose any friend over a girl. Is there like anything i can do to get these feelings out of my head?
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I think it's wonderful that you are considering your friend's feelings over your own.
As wrong as it sounds, you seriously need to speak to your friend. Don't let him know you have feelings for "Betty" but at least let him know that their relationship ("Bob's" & "Betty's") needs a lot of improvement. The more you try to fix their relationship, the more she would rather be with him. All girls are teases, which is the reason she is flirting with you. Although she may also have feelings for you, or she may be trying to make her boyfriend jealous.
If you don't want feelings for her, then try not to be around her. Find ways to avoid her. The less contact, the less feelings.
Good luck :]
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I'm in your shoes too, see i'm good pals with my friend and we both like the same girl too. but instead of going to her you should try to talk to Bob. i did that to my friend, i told him that i liked the same girl he likes and i think she might like me back. i dont want to have a girl come between us so please understand. he then told me thank you for telling him that. Thats a true friend. now bob and you need to talk first, then if he gets the okay of you to talk to betty then talk. if not then try to talk to her.
getting over someone is hard so what i do is keep my self bussy with work, school and hoobies. so good luck!
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Hey-
There isn't much you can do to get these feelings out of your head. Not many people can help who they are attracted to- and it's especially hard when the person seems like the perfect boyfriend/girlfriend to you.
Even though it would cause trouble with Bob- I suggest you just flat out tell Betty how you feel about her. If she doesn't react and say that she likes you too, then there isn't much you can do to get her to like you.
Otherwise, to get her out of your head, try to find someone else. Yes- I know how hard that is.. trust me.. but continuing to crush on someone that you can't have is just being a hopeless romantic. There are plenty fish in the sea like Betty.
Hope I helped!
--Jack
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