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should i break up with him?
okay so i went out with thys guy last summer. we went out for about 3 monthes. we were pretty close and everything but the small things that bugged me about him made me break up with him. then when school started up about 3rd qouater he asked me back out and i was hesitent at first but then i said yes. i started liking him more. but now about 1 month 2 weeks im really doubtin things. anyways my point is that he really likes me. but i hate tht i can say i love you to him but i question myself that if i really mean it. so i dont know what to do..i dont wanna break his heart again.. ughh help?
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I don't think you can love someone that quickly. So maybe have a talk with him that you're not ready to say I love you. That you don't want to say it too soon. Just give him some time. Of course you'll question yourself if you really mean it. But it's best to stop saying it now or you would get into deep. Just have a talk with him about those words, saying it's going way too fast and that you do like him [if you do..]
You don't have to break up with someone because you don't think you love them. Love comes into play later in the relationship. It would be strange if it came too soon.
About those small things..
Was it something he did? Or said?
Something that you didn't like because it hurt you or you thought was immature? You should talk to him about that.
If you don't feel right.. then break up with him gently. You should have a talk about it before hand.. say that you are unsure of your feelings and that you're not sure if you want a relationship.. that you'll like to remain friends [if you do]
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okay welll obvvviii (obviously, duh) if you dont like him , then dont KEEP DATING HIM. like wtfff thats sooo messed up to himmm. your being selfish now and yu need to end this thing. he doesnt deserve to be played mk? so break up with him move on and date someone you actually like!!! kBYE
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Yes- you should break up with him. I was in pretty much the same situation as you. However, she broke up with me, then I realized I still liked her (don't know why) but then I asked her out again- and she said yes because she "made a big mistake" in breaking up with me. Then little annoyances caused me to break up with her- and also the fact that I didn't feel right saying I love you- we're only teenagers. So- I broke up with her. Yes- I "broke her heart"- but hearts heal. I suggest, after going through what I did- that you break up with him. But- you need to be completely honest when breaking up with him. Yes- he may turn it all around and say that you lied to him and used him (because that's what she did) but you know the truth that you liked him- but are just having doubts- and that is PERFECTLY natural for a teenager. Don't feel bad about breaking up with someone- its bound to happen eventually in your life.
I hope I helped!
Let me know how it goes
--Jack
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if you dont want to hurt his heart again then that means that you do care, so thats good. to me it sounds like you really like him. if that helps. well, i was in the same situation i used to say i love you so fast to my boyfriend and i always wondered if i did mean it. so what i did was i told him i wanted a small break. and there i really realized how much i loved him, just by not being with him or talking on the phone i realized that i really missed him. so maybe you can do the same and see if it works out.
so maybe if you really miss him then you really do love/like him, but if you dont then whats the whole point in being with him?
hope i helped and i hope that everything works for you
xoxo johanny
good luck
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