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being me
hello-
I'm 15/f and this is kinda a weird question.
but most people i know are baiscally a "type" like more prep, emo, athletic, gurliy..ya know? and well i'm everything i listen to emo/rock/rap/alternative. i'm most def. not a girly girl but some days i'm a total girly girl. it just depends on my mood that day. and i'm just everything and sometimes i worry people think i'm a poser or something cause i'm just so unique. i mean i'm friends with total preps, emo's, jocks and etc. but i'm starting to think that maybe being so diverse is a bad thing. cause sometimes i have my emo days and others my jock and prep. and i'm starting to think being so many differnent things is making people think i wanna be something i'm not and maybe thats why i've never had a bf. cause woudln't a guy want a girl who she knows who she is? cause i don't know what i am cause i'm everything. and i don't know if i should stay like this or try and lean towards one direction...should i try and stick with my emo/rock side or my athletic side or maybe the guy of my dreams wnats me to be the girly girl. i just have no clue what to do and i just need some help. i'm so lost in life right now.
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first you shouldnt label yourself thats the firstt sstep in turning you personality one-dimensional.
+your not the only one going through this+
you dont have to hang around with like a certain type of people to "fit in"
thats whats wrong people today they think they should be a cerain way...
its annoying and id do everything in my power to make that stop...
i KNOW that when youre just yourself others will feel that youre *real* and gravitate towards you...
=if you do decide to be completely brainwash yourself and strip your personality into a tiny sliver of nothing ...
dont lose yourself and your entity and who you really are ...
*your personality is complex +and as you said unique*
You have many dimensions to yourself and guy find that to be very attractive...they find out a new side of you every day ...it tends to be exciting...
KEEP IT ZEN *
MUAh i hope helped
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nothings wrong with changing the way you dress everyday,like you said it does depend on your mood.I can dress girly one day and the next day im like totally punk,so what?Sticking to one style is kind of boring dont you think?Its always good to change every now and then.Who CArEs WhAt others think man,what they think isnt really gonna change anything is it?
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Hiya. You don't sound very lost to me at all to be honest. Maybe a little concerned but not lost.
I am 'exactly' the same as you (from a male perspective that is). I listen to every kind of music from pop to heavy metal to classical and I dress differnt every day. Some days I look like a goth and on others a skater and then the next I'd be told I'm dressed like a chav (I believe the US term for chav would be jock? I'm not sure on that one).
You sound like a very unique person because you don't follow trends or try to be like a group of people just to feel like you need to fit in. Those are the real people who are lost in life because they follow in the footsteps of a crowd instead of finding their own path to follow.
If you are happy with how you are right now regardless of everything else then by all means stay that way. You shouldn't have to change who you are just to fit in or make everyone else happy. I don't think it's why you've never had a bf. I mean if I were to find someone as unique then I'd be very happy. I can't give you a reason as to why you're single but if a guy will only like you or date you because of the way you dress or the kind of group you fit into instead of actually dating you for who you are then is that really a guy you want to be dating?
The guy of your dreams will just want you to be you because that's the person he will have fallen for.
If you need to chat more feel free to write. Keep that chin up - I don't think there's anything at all wrong with the way you are at all.
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Even though you are a bunch of things you can't make yourself be one specific thing. Its really specical to be able to fit into any group. You shouldn't worry about who you fit in with, or how you should be "labeled". Being labeled is just a word. Emo is just a word. Punk is just a word. Girly is just a word. You shouldn't let a word determine who you are all of the time. I am just like you, I can fit into everything but If I was just one type, then it can make things very boring and you may end up feeling very limited.
Hope I helped.
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