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my sister
im 15/m my sister is 13. we kinda get along. im the sporty kinda guy who always has a gf. shes the freaky gothic girl that never had a bf. her bff is a guy. our mom wont let her dress how she always has anymore now our mom hates all her friends. mom wont let my sister wear anything dark or gothic. my sister is going crazy shes cussing out and flipping off people ALOT at home but also quiet and says about 3 words the whole time unless shes out of the house or with her friends then is loud and crazy. shes never had a bf but alot of guy friends. she loves her bff and he loves her but she turned him down? shes very violent and going real rebelious more than ever. and our mom wont let her go over her bffs(a guy)house anymore. so she says shes going with her other friends but most of the time is going with him places. our mom hates all her friends anyway. my sister leaves the house dressed normal then she puts on her black hoodie and jewelry. you never know what shes thinking about it scares me? we dont talk that much but we still do i guess. i took and read her diary i know thats bad but i wana help her. her diary was filled with all that stuff then also disturbing drawings and poems and storys all about dark stuff hate and death. i wana help her without taking to our mom or anyone else just between me her and her friends would help. list all i could do for her to help her and change it.
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well you should try and hang out with her once in awhile and just let her know that you will always be there for her and not go runnig to your mom when she tells you something just talk to her about it and try and let her understand that you love her and you dont anything to happen to her. and i am sure she will be alright after but like the girl said below me take any sign of suicide and believe it dont let it go unnotice she doesnt want to talk to your mom so dont let your mom in unless things get really really bad. but whatever you do dont tell her you read her diary she will never trust you if you do. Like I said before just let her know that you care and love her and always will beucase she is your little sister and just be there for her.
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It is very good of you to be so worried about your sister. She is 13 and going through some big changes in her life. She is still a young girl turning into a young woman and her hormones will be all over the place. I agree with the previous answer in that taking her out as a treat would open the door to any discussions and pointing out how proud you are of her individuality. Make her feel good about being herself and don't criticise her. There is not a lot you can do about your Mum's opinions and rules but you could suggest (subtly) that banning all contact with other Goths is not the best way of getting her on side. Reverse psychology works a whole lot better ie: tell her how good she looks in black rather than banning it altogether. If she feels that her rebellions are not being taken seriously she may just tone things down a bit. As for her violence and cussing, if she does that to you just say quietly that you do not like it and would not reciprocate in kind. She may take a while to realise that the best way forward is to take a step back and re-think her outlook.
Do take any threats of suicide seriously but don't make a big fuss about it. Just tell her quietly that you love her very much and she has too much to offer the world as she gets older.
I hope that some of my suggestions make life a little more bearable for you all. I wish you all the best.
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Well you know you could maybe take her out to lunch and TREAT her and discuss with her how you feel and what your going through watching what she's going through. You know that you don't want her dead so let her know that and tell her how much you and your family love her and care for her. Well thank you for your time and I hope this advice can get you somewhere with this situation :)
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