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i have this friend
i have this friend who no one likes, and i kinda like her, but she has her moments. Plus everyone thinks she a lesbian, and i kinda agree. I hate talking about her, but idk what to do about it. I dont like confronting her on the issue, but i also want to be sure of her sex. SHe does many things to me which i dont particularly want ehr too, but its weird to tell her STOP!! im not sure what im asking exactly, but i need advice!!!
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well to find out what her sex is would be the ebst thing to do! just no matter what she tells you dnt stop being her friend.and just because no one else likes her dosnt mean yo have to, everyone is entitled to thier own friends and if you let other ppl pick ur friends you will be one unsatisfied person. and you never know if she is a lesbian, she could be bi
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sexual orientation should not have a damper on any friendship...UNLESS someone is putting you in difficult situations, (making you feel uncomfortable). as far as that, i really do think that you need to sit down and tell her what makes you feel unconfortable, even though you think its "weird" to tell her stop, that issue really needs to be addressed, or else this friendship is going no where. as far as being uncomfortable about being friends with her just because OTHER people don't like her.. well then, your not really being a true friend. trust me, everyone talks about EVERYONE. EVERYONE has thier moments... and if your actually that worried about what other people think, well then, im sorry, because that occuring issue will really start to wear down your self asteem, not to mention, you could be losing a really good friend here, just because of what OTHER people think. do yourself, AND your friend a favor, and judge her on your OWN terms... not what outsiders have to say about it.
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If you were really her friend, then you'd go to her if you had a problem with her. Don't talk about her behind her back because then you're not being a good friend.
She could be a lesbian, and she could be bisexual, or maybe she's just curious, but you're job is to let her know that you're neither of those. If you don't want to do anything with her, then you need to let her know that as well. If you just sit there, and do nothing, she'll keep on. You need to speak up.
As much as you hate confronting someone, it needs to be done. If someone's talking about you behind your back, are you going to let them, or are you going to stop it? And if someone had an issue with you, or a question, they should confront you, just like you should confront them.
Also, even if she is bisexual or a lesbian, you shouldn't bail. I'm sure she's a nice person & it'd suck for you to stop being friends with her just because of something like her sexual orientation. I'm sure you wouldn't want someone to do that to you, so don't do it to her.
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If you are her friend then you will be upfront with her even if it hurts her feelings she will understand if you explain it to her even if its a little weird.
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