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i hate her...
my best friendm, who i'll call... carly, is about the bestest friend i have ever had since 2nd grade. the problem is, carly has this new friend (shez not a new student) named janis. janis is horrible. she acts very conceited when she hangs w/ me and my cliquey friendz. i act conceited around them too, but i do it playfully and not totally seriously like i do. carly is always hanging out with janis and i can't stand it. i tried opening up, but all she does is fill in my spot like it wouldnt matter if i wasnt even there. it gets me really mad, and i control it. recently, janis guessed to carly that i didnt like her and carly told janis everything that i'm saying now (which i told her). now janis knows that i hate her and gets all up in my face like shez trying to be gangsta or something to a group of totally preppy people. AND, for the icing on the cake, she isnt even good-looking, which kinda matters to me especially when she acts like she is the most gorgeous person in the friggin world, which is like calling a lion a mouse. help please!
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Hey..it sounds to me like something i went through when my friend moved. A girl from her town is her best friend and she stopped talking to me. I suggest you try to talk to her, obviously when janis isn't around, and tell her how you feel. If she feels like she misses you too, maybe see if there are certain times a week that you two can hang out alone. If she doesn't think anything is wrong, tell her how you feel about everything and if she would rather be friends with Janis, then she isnt a true friend. Let me know if you take my advice and tell me what happens.
♥ SoccerCutie
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I know exactly how it feels when your best friend finds someone new to hang out with. I basically just talked to my best friend about it, and she understood it all. Before I talked to her about it, I ignored her, didn't talk to her & basically didn't do anything to try & help the matter. It took another friend of mine to push & say "You guys are best friends, talk to her. She'll understand."
So I talked to her, and she basically just understood exactly how I felt. So then we started hanging out again & had our own time together, and the other girl & her had their time together. As annoying as she was, I got to being her friend, and things are fine between the three of us now, about two years later. If you don't really like Janis though, then don't hang out with her. She already knows you hate her so for you to just randomly be friends with her would be weird.
And when she gets in your face, curse her out. Seriously, don't let anyone get in your face & try to put you down. Tell her exactly what you think about her, and tell her that if she's got a problem with it then that's too bad and it's her problem to deal with, not yours.
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hey, well i know that girls are bitches and are very hard to get through to, especially when there concieted and cliquey. the way i look at it, mean girls is a perfect example. the first thing i would try to do is make a burn book and get your anger out. im not saying literally make a burn book, im just saying that getting your anger out on paper is good. get yourself more involved with everyone in your group, except janis. slowly start leaving her out and excluding her. give her a taste of her own medicine -- ya know? if all else fails, have one of those group confession meetings like on mean girls. not so drastic, like the falling and everything -- just somehting little and nice. its corny, but it works =].
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