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Love My Best Friend
15/f
Well, I started high school this year at a new school so I didn't know anybody. But now I have friends and one that I'm really close to. He and I Instant Message all the time, flirt, hug... I can tell him personal things and he will confort me when I'm sad. he's awesome. But I love him. I have a huge crush on him. But since I knew he didn't/doesn't like me back, last night when the subject came up I said I used to like him but that I didn't anymore. And he's like, "but I liked being liked by you. :-(" I said he gave me the idea he didn't want me to like him. So we recalled an awkward conversation we had a few weeks ago that had ended with him saying, "Why does this have to affect our relationship as friends?" Then he asked if he broke my heart, I said yes, and he felt really bad about it. And I kept trying to tell him it ok because he can't help it if he doesn't like me the way I like him. But he says he feels like he led me on, then pulled the rug out from under me. Which, he did. But I was like, "no, no, it's my fault." But that's not really true. He DID led me on! A lot! But I don't want to tell him that because he already hates himself for hurting me. And it'll just make me feel like an idiot for thinking he could ever like me. Tonight we're going to the Spring dance at our school... and I'm scared I'm going to start crying. He mad me promise a while back that I'd save him a slow down. But now that I'm certain he doesn't ever wanna be more than friend, I'm scared I'll cry or things will be awkward. Our relationship is a mess now! What do I do?
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wow! i think what u JUST said or typed, u should say to him... it will work out.
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yea i know how you feel. i am in love with my best friend too. it was all the same, hugging, flirting, everything. i told him i liked him as more than a frined. and then he led me on just the same and finally told me that he didnt feel the same way. he felt really bad about it he said it was all his fault. i told him it was ok and he told me he didnt want this to mess up our friendship.
so later i decided to get over him. then when someone asked if i still liked him, right in front of him i said not anymore. to this day he still thinks i dont like him. but he is still really flirty to me and it really hurts knowing he will never feel the same way about me. its not like guys try to be flirty some of them just are. to them its not flirting its just being friendly. but to us these are "signs" you know what i mean? everyday when i see him i just pray that he will like me but he doesnt. he sees me as a sister, as a best friend, but to me he is soo much more. i think that the friendship should not change either but the only way for that to happen is to give up all hope that he will ever see you as more than a friend. even if he flirts, hugs you, talks to you, and makes everything feel better. once you give up hope its easier to let go. i know i never want to let go of him i wish i could be with him so badly but it wont happen. as far as the school dance just try to have fun as friends. its hard not to cry but just hold it in. be strong. you will get through this. i promise.i bet you will still be the best of friends and the relationship will not be as awkward once you realize this. just telling you all of this makes me want to cry. but its ok we'll get through this. well i hope i helped. it feels good knowing that im not the only one going through this. if you want to talk more then you can always message me or ask me for my AIM. thanx in a way reading this is helping me too.
SAM
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Listen your in a predicament many people fall into. We in the business call it the friend circle. Once inside the friend circle it is nearly impossible to get out. The thing is this guy thinks of you as more of a sister than a girlfriend. In order to get out of the circle though you need to put some space between the two of you. A month at least more time is even better. Because you two are close this will be hard but you need to do it. After a while start talking again but not in a friendly way. Try to make him think of you as girlfriend material and that should work. If it doesn't move on and try not to let it happen again. Good luck.
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