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she thinks im a liar
okay im 14/m and i have this friend 14/f and well i sort of like her, but thats not what this is about, now i was talking to her and she said that a long long time ago she heard my best frind say somthing, and when i confronted my best friend about it he was sooo mad at the girl i like(lets call her jill to save confusion)he was very angry at jill, he was swerin and everything he said thats it im gunna sort her out tomorry i want a word with that b**** and well jill gets upset easily and so i wet to her and said look my best friends relli mad at you, and i told her i confronted him about what he said, and she was upset that i did that because apparently i made out that she was the liar and it really upset her, now i begged my friend not to be mean to jill and after a while he have in and had a calm word with her, now she thinks that i was making out that my friend was really angry in the same way that she was the liar, and ever since then she thinks that i twist everything people say, and she also thinks that i go way over the top on everything, and she also thinks that im a liar, now ive done a few things to mke her think that, and yes i made her cry a few times, and her mom has now banned her fom e-mailing me, talkig on the phone with me andI.M ing me on msn, and ive changed so my question is how can i het me and her to be really close like we were and be able to contact her and stuff? thanx in advance
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I think the best thing to do would be to try and talk to her and be honest with her about everything. You wanted your friend to calm down and not shout at her because you like her and you didn't want her getting really upset (because she can get upset easily) and it worked as far as calming your friend down. I can understand why you would ask your best friend about what Jill heard him say. If someone had been saying something about me I would also want to know what it was. More so that it was someone who I liked that heard it. I do not think you are in the wrong at all in wanting to ask your friend what was said.
The thing here it seems is that you've just lost her trust and you need to work to try and build that back up. She may have difficulty trusting people. There's no shortcuts to trust - it takes a lot of time. That's pretty much how trust works though. It can take years to gain someone’s trust but only a second to lose it.
I think all you can really do is try to explain your side of the story (you asked your friend not because you doubted her but because you wanted to know what he had said about you) since I'm guessing she wouldn't tell you what it was that he had said about you? Also, you'll need to stop lying to her. Lies can't always remain hidden, eventually they do get found out and they can be the cause of a lot of agro afterwards.
I think once you manage to get her trust back and she sees things from your point of view the whole situation with the emailing and IM and such will fix itself. Since it is her mom who put those in effect in the first place she will be the only one who can lift them. Once her mom sees that her daughter trusts you again maybe her mom will do just that. I can't make any promises here though and this will take time and not happen over night.
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