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Calling my ex.
My boyfriend of 9 months, and I broke up a month ago. Ever since, we've been talking every other day for about 5 minutes each time. The only reason he talks to me is to make me happy. Honestly, I don't know WHY I want to talk to him.
I want to stop, but whenever I get home from school it's such a habit to just pick up the phone and dial his number. What can I do to stop it? I want to just end it, because it looks like I'm desperate and I want him to be running after me, not me running after him!! :[
Anyone whose been through this, just give me ideas, please! :]
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HEY ive been through this and its really hard at first because when your with somone for a long time it just becomes natural to you to call him. But the easiest way for me to get off calling my ex was instead of calling him call a friend. It helps you take your mind off calling him while making yourself look like you dont need him. And wait for the magic of jealousy to come over him.
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Hey!
Well, first of all, we all move on in different ways, and yeah this is a habit you picked up that hasnt been making the moving process easier, but it's okay, because you're noticing that you picked up this habit and you're trying to quit. So thats a great thing!
SO what do we do? Well the first thing you need to do, is figure out why you call him. What you talk about and what this is doing to you (both good and bad). Then you need to figure out what you could do instead of calling him (ie calling someone else, or going on the computer and talking to one of your friends). Then you need to figure out how to talk about that stuff some how else. (like, say you talk about your day with him, start a journal, say you talk about problems with your friends with him, talk to your friends, instead of behind their backs) and finally how to get the good (out of what good this is doing vs what bad it is doing) some other way.
Then there is will power. So basically, heres what you dom quitting cold turkey would be very stupid. So what you should do instead is try and set a day such as thrusday (lmao I just picked a day) and call him on those days. Talk about your week so far what you're doing on the weekend tell him you won the game in gym or you cant wait till this party you're going to on friday. Little things. Make small talk. And dont call him other days. Then, to make sure you dont call him,get a jar and a roll of quarters, and everytime you come home from school and you're like oh I wanna call____ go to the jar and throw a quarter in. You'll make some money and it will help.
One of the reasons that you do this is to keep him close to you, but you arent dating him anymore, and by doing this you think you have made the moving on process easier, but really its ten times harder. So I dont know whether you ahve moved on yet or not, but you'll figure that out this week when you dont get to call him every day. So if you need to still move on, let me know, I know all the tricks okay, so don't worry this will all work out, and you know you may actually have a sucessful break up. You guys may still be friends afterward. Thats awesome. So I hope I helped, adn good luck, trying to quit. Love ya,
Angie91
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Thats hard. Well, what you could do, is just when you notice you pick up the phone to call him, call one of your friends instead. This will keep your mind off of him for a while, give you something else to think about
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