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not a doormat
i feel like my one friend thinks that she can treat me however she wants and i will always be there for her to come back to. why does she do this, how do i change it and what should i do?
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I had this problem with one of my friends. It got so bad that just had to say, Back off, I need my space, and this is how you are making me feel. I care about you, but if this continues, I won't be around to stomp on anymore.
I know that it sounds really mean, but you need to get your feelings out there. You could do it in a more subtle way. You could first start out by hinting that you don't like your friend's behavior (if you haven't already) and leave it at that. If it doesn't work, make your warnings stronger every time. And if you do have to leave your friend, that doesn't mean it's final. Just give him/her some time to come to his/her senses.
You also should look at yourself and make sure that you are not being overly sensitive, that the real problem does not lie with you.
Sometimes you want to change a person, but it will not occur unless they decide to change themself.
Good luck!
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She probably does it because everytime she does it, you never leave so she thinks it's always gonna be that way.
Stop letting her walk all over you.
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