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Appearance
15/f (16 this year)
I recently got caught up on my appearance. As a young girl I used to look in the mirror and promise myself I was beautiful and not let anyone tell me otherwise. I grew older and began to give in to the pressure to look good. I made my best attempt to keep the matter in perspective, and I now have a look that I think is great.However, it did make me spend many nights worrying and obsessing.
Unfortunately, when I look around a room of people I still compare myself to other girls. (Immature) guys just care about looks right now, and when a guy is paying attention to some other girl I'm tempted to think I'm ugly and undeserving of their attention.
This insecurity rarely shows through and I try my best to be confident. I just wish people would see everything I've worked for (appearance, grades, personality) but no one really seems to appreciate it. I'm afraid to fall into worry over such unimportant things again.
Is there any way to encourage people to see my strengths and potential? Or does it just take the right person?
I realize there's no right answer to my question, so if you would like to add any general insight on the situation I would like that also. Thanks, help is greatly appreciated!
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14/f
well i think ALL girls do that. i know i do! but im not the finest girl out there, no 1 is really. even dime-pieces think they need 2 lose weight and stuff, i feel that way to. id be in a crowd, there are pretty girls and fine guys, but im like "how come a guy aint talkin to me?" i think "well prob bc that girl has a better body or prettier and bigger butt" haha. but i think that if there is something on yourself that you like> then girl flaunt it> thats what the other girls do. i flaunt my eyes,smile, and legs bc thats what i like most about myself. so you should try it. holla bac at ya snowbunny
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Hey!
You're a lot like me. I have basically the same problem, so what I do is when I see myself wishing I had more friends or could wear size 0 jeans I just try and think of the things that I have. Like good grades, little acne or great friends.
I'm sure that people do see your great side and you don't have to worry about what they think anyway, easier said than done though eh? well I dont think there is any way to show people that you are good at math or that your a great person, but if you try to be kind and smart and funny and show all of those great qalities people will be naturally drawn to you.
Next time you look in the mirror go back to your younger days and say something like: "I'm beautiful in my own way and I don't care if people see it, because it's who I am and I'm amazing." Constantly give yourself compliments like when you get a good grade on a test say wow I'm awesome and science. In your head though lol.
I think I gave some insight into the situation and I hope I helped you out. Good luck, and lots of love,
Angie91
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You are very young and you're still in High School. Your peers are way to immature to actually appreciate someone for what they have achieved thus far in their life. Besides, why would you WANT attention from a guy like that? You are beautiful just the way you are. You don't need a guy to tell you you're beautiful to believe it. The most important thing to do when you want people to notice you for what a great person you are is to believe YOURSELF that you are a great person. No one can be loved by another until they learn to love themselves.
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