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he thinks hes not my first
ok, so i am pretty much crazy about sex. before i met my boyfriend i was a virgin. except i masterbated a lottt and i used this uh like weird thing. it was a thick plastic tube with glitter inside, basically i used it for a dildo except its probably half the size of a penis (not length, like the size around it) so anyways, sadly i popped my own cherry and i didnt know it. i think i was 14 (im 15 now) when it happend. i remember me bleeding and i was scared and now i know that it was because i popped my cherry. so anywaysss obviously i didnt bleed the first time, or any of the times my boyfriend and i have had sex. so, he thinks he wasnt my first and so he thinks i had sex with a guy before him and im hiding it from him. what i explained earlier is very embarassing to me, i mean wouldnt you be too? so do i just tell him that so he'll believe me that he was my first? he hasnt brought it up in a while but its been bugging me a lottt lately. ill just feel so, embarrassed and gross. so, do i just come out and tell him?
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just tell him that you didn't know you popped it. some girls are even born without one.
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Well the truth is that you can't make anyone believe you. They either trust you or they don't. The fact is that a lot of people pop their cherries before they have sex riding horses playing around rough etc. I had sex a ton of times and my cherry didn't pop til I let this asshole finger me and he did it way way way too hard. That was after I had sex with like 4 dudes. Not to mention how many times I had it with my ex. So just like teach him what the facts are and you know what ever he gonna believe is what he gonna believe. Stay true to your self. Peace.
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You aren't obliged to tell him-- I wouldn't, as this is something personal and may be embarrassing to tell. There are other ways of breaking your hymen-sports, horseback riding, tampons..not all girls pop their cherry through sex. And not all girls bleed a lot when they do. All you have to do is let him know that you broke your hymen through sports or something. Let him know you're being honest, that he's your first.. and that lots of girls break their hymen in other ways. Afterall, the hymen is on the outside of the vaginal opening.
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I know lying is bad, but in this case, it might be the best idea. A girl can pop hers playing sports, using a tampon, or falling. One girl i know fell off her bike and landed on the handles, and hers popped. You can choose one of those. I mean, lying to your bf is really bad, but in this case, whatever. he's not going to have any way of finding out if its true, unless you say that someone else was there or something. and he'd probably be a bit uncomfortable if you told him that you masturbated a lot before.
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