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Friends insult me.
I've got a great group of friends. Albeit small, but we're close. There's one flaw about them- you basically have to twist their arm off to get a legitamate compliment out of them.
It's always, Gosh you're so ugly. Haha, Kidding!
CONSTANTLY. Not occassionally, as a joke.
Just once, I want to her "Anna, you're beautiful" and not hear about my personality/physical flaws. But it's apparently too much to ask. How can I approach this without losing their friendship?
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the sames happening w/ me. sorry i donno the answer but i just wanted 2 tell the responders 2 be realistic. friends do that, it doesn't mean they're not your friends and you should find new ones. your also not gonna go up to them and tell them off. i personally donno what to do. to tell you the truth, it's crushing me, what my friends have been saying, and I've been sulking basically. i hope your friends notice wat there doing to u. I feel ya' =)
yeah i know this isnt an answer so u dont havta rate me
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If they are your true friends then they would'nt do this to you. Try talking to them and if it doesnt work then you need to say screw it im done being treated like this. If they are true to you then they will apologize for what they have done and they will stop for good. Once they start then you need to say something bad about them. Once they realize how much it hurts then they will realize how much they hurt you. Ohh Yah "Anna, you're beautiful". And if not on the outside then definately on the inside.
Good luck
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hey! ok, well my friends are EXACTLY the same way. i get soooo tired of it. it drives me absolutly nuts. they always say stuff to me like "stupid" or "gosh/jeez!" and then they say "i'm just kidding!". the other day i finally told them how i felt. i told them that it really hurts my feelings and after a while i kinda give into it and feel like i'm somewhat "stupid" as they say i am. at first they were a little mad(very very little) but then they just said, "i'm sorry, we'll try to watch what we say and how we say it". they still do it, but very very little. i don't know what your friends are like, and how they react when you say things about how that stuff makes you feel, but i would just talk to them about it. and if they can't except how you feel, then i'm sure there are other people that would be much better friends and not treat you so bad. next time they say something mean to you, i would just say "ok guys, i know your just kidding around, but sometimes that kinda stuff really hurts my feelings and i would appreatiate it if you could stop". or something like that. don't seem really fired up about it, just be calm and tell them. i hope i helped some!! good luck!!! <3
love always,
lagunabeachfan12<3
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