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okay well this might be kinda long. okay well i have these best friends.. three of them. and we were really close and everything. one of them i have been friends with since kindergarden, one since first grade, and one since like two or three years ago. its been a long time and we have always been so close. last year and during the summer we had a lot of other friends and we all hung out almost everyday and we hung out with guys and everything was perfect. but this year, things changed. i have pretty much no one in any of my classes. like at all. and my three best friends all have classes together. so i was pretty much left out from the beginning. but things were fine and we were happy. but then in december.. they started hanging out with other girls on their team (team in school) and at first i was invited to hang out with them.. but then i dont know what happened on day i wasnt invited to something and then i just stopped being invited from then on. one of my best friends had a sleepover with like 5 people and didnt invite me. i wasnt that mad about that, but its just that was when my other two best friends became really close with the other girls, and i wasnt. and so basically those girls plan everything, so of course i was never invited anywhere on weekends because my best friends didnt plan anything. i dont know why they could never ask to invite me or something like that. so then my weekends were just at home doing nothing. and i was sick of it. i tried talking to my best friends about it many times, and every time it ends up becoming a fight. they have said things that have hurt me and i get really mad, but i didnt want to lose them completely so i stupidly forgot about it and apologized so the fighting would stop. i never really stood up for myself, and i held it all inside. well now, one of my "best friends" doesnt want to be friends with me at all anymore. shes saying that she doesnt hang out with me at all so she doesnt want to try to stay best friends. so she basically hates me. and the other two who i were friends with the longest dont seem to even like me that much anymore. i never get payed any attention to at lunch, the only time of the day i see them. when they talk they never even look at me, so its basically like theyre not even talking to me. im just sick of being treated like crap for months and just letting this happen to me. i can tell they dont want to be best friends with me at all anymore. do you think i should forget them and try to make new friends?? i mean i love my friends to death i have had amazing times with them but things arent the same at all, and theyre not willing to try to fix things. i dont know what to do.. i wanted to know your opinion on things, do you think i did something wrong? im not sure why things are going like this. but in my opinion, its like we were friends since the very begining, and now im suddenly out of the picutre. do you think this is a normal thing to do.. just dump a person like that? idk what to do.
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wow. i'm sorry but your friends are being real b****es to you. obviously they aren't your true friends and never were or else they wouldn't treat you like this. don't let it get you down and depressed. your young and some people just change. i think we've all had something like this happen to use before.
i think that you should try to make new friends. if you've already tried talking to them about it and how your upset and they dont care about your feelings then they don't deserve you as a friend. you said that last summer you guys hung out with a bunch of other people including guys. why don't you try making friends with those people? or you could even make some new guy friends. having guy friends is great and there is so much less drama =]
slowly start talking to other people. like people that you sit next to in class, and ask if you can sit with them at lunch. this way your old "friends" will get the picture and realized that you've moved on. ask someone to hang out and you'll be making more friends in no time.
don't let these 3 girls get you down. just move on and find even better friends that won't ditch you for other people.
good luck with everything and if you have any more questions just leave one in my inbox <3
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