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Fighting
Hi
15 year old male from UK
(This happened when i was about 13.
im quite good at fighting, ive never really got into a serious fight before. but i can take down most of my friends (just play fighting). But this day, like ages ago when i first started high school, this guy wanted to go at it. I didnt react cause people knew he was a weirdo and he was probably carrying a knife with him or somethin, i just took a beatdown. I was shocked when it happened, noone came to aid me or anything so i was sort of stuff with loads of people watching a beatdown. after it i was really still in shock, i just broke down and started to cry. This 'prefect' as we call them (Someone who is in the top year in highschool who shows new people the ropes) took me to see a bully counciler, i couldnt speak cause i was too much in shock, and just crying alot. I am quite a sensitive guy and when something like that happens it just makes my heart just drop and i can't hold back from crying. If anyone knows a way of tackling my sensitivity that would be cool.
Thanks
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There's nothing wrong with crying, even though that's the way societ has made it for men. Crying is seen as unmanly or whatever, but honestly, everyone cries, whether they'd like to admit it or not.
There is nothing wrong with sensitivity. Although this kid might've been crazy, I wouldn't have taken an asskicking. I would've stood up for myself, and even if he did win, at least you didn't just sit there.
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Society tells males that showing emotion in the form of crying is bad. It isn't necessarily. Everybody cries. You just happened to have a moment. You got the _____ kicked out of you! Of course you broke down. It was traumatizing to have some crazy guy beat down on you. There's nothing wrong with you! What would be wrong is if you cried at inappropriate times in class.
Trust me, crying is better than changing sadness into rage. Many males will see sadness/crying as unacceptable and will channel it into punching in windows and walls.
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