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Parents maybe getting a divorce
My parents have recently told me that they might get divorced. I actually found this as a shock because they used to fight a lot, but the fighting seemed to have stopped. I've been really upset because if they do decide to divorce, than not only will my parents lives be different, so will mine and my 3 younger brothers who have no clue what's going on. Anyway, what kind of stuff happens in a divorce and what should I expect? How can I deal with this?
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Well the younger that you are the easier it will be in the future. This is how it is in the USA I don't know where you from. Also it might have changed since I remember going threw it as a kid it was like9 years ago. But the court will decide on what parent you will live with and also the amount of time the other gets to spend with you like the visitation rights. It will be a little odd at first living in a different house with just you mom or dad, but it will all feel normal after a couple months. If you are having alot of problems coping with it talk to your school counsler or you friends and there parents but if you open your eyes there will be alot of people out there willing to talk to you about it and all. But it is a hard thing to go threw and I dont think that there is any thing out there that can totally prepair you for it because it affects some kids alot more than others and all.
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I'm the psot-child for divorce.
My parents have been in splitsville for about eight years.
They broke up when I was eight.
I've practicaly lived my life in it.
I'm not going to sugar coat it, it can really be a pain.
But the one important thing is to never make decisions based on being worried if you'll look like you like one parents better. They should know you don't.
Things aren't much different, besides maybe the moving around a bit more.
You get two houses,two rooms, two christmas & birthdays.
But you also have to put up with parents maybe thrashing eachother, don't take it to heart, realize that they're just stressed, and try to cope.
It will feel weird for a bit, but if your parents split on good terms it won't be too bad.
Don't worry. It won't be the end of the world. I promise.
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First of all, I want you to know I'm sorry that you're having to go through this. I'm also sorry your parents have to go through this, and your little brothers as well. Divorce is hard for everyone involved. Obviously if they've let you know they might get a divorce, it's pretty serious. I'm sure they will make it as smooth as possible for you and your siblings. Of course it will be different.. you will live in two households, essentially. In my case, I lived in my mom's house and never saw my dad. But obviously your dad has been around for a while so I'm sure you'll be seeing a lot of both of your parents. Just be there for them if they want to talk to you. Try not to throw fits or get upset even if you really want to scream inside. Remember it's hard for everyone. Help your little brothers get through this tough time - they need you right now and will remember how you acted during this time forever. Good luck.
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Okay I dont know how your parents will decide how to go about the divorce but it will be tough on you and your 3 little brothers.
Sorry to hear the bad news.. But when couples divorce and they have children they may go to court to fight for custody on whos keeping the children but if they decide on there own then that good. But what will happen is if your mother gets to keep you and your father gets to keep you 3 brothers what will happen is you will be aloud to see your father once a week on a weekend or once a day depending on what the judge has to say.. But anyways.. Also it will be rough on you if you want be able to see your mother or father together living together because they will be split apart and see either you father working hard at his job to afford child support if your mother wants to get money to take care of you or he has to give lots of money a month for you and your 3 brothers.. Your mother will may have to take a second job and spend long hours on the night working hard not having any quality time with you or her 3 sons. You may have to become more of an adult and take up and help around the house and may have to get a job as well..
But its all on what your parents decide to do..
It will be hard on your little brothers the most because they dont know whats going on but if they see your mother/father packing and they may ask where they going and then they say going bye-bye son they may take it really really rough...
But I hope they work out there diffrences
hope i helped
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