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Afraid to get hurt.
I sorta like this guy at my school who is younger than me and is a Sophmore and I'm a Junior,& he plays varsity baseball. I've just been getting over a guy and starting fresh anew. I don't want to get used or my feelings hurt again.. Just about every guy has hurt my feelings, mostly liking me and then turning around and liking someone else or leading me on. I'm scared to try again about this one.He's in my lunch, and I've already talked to a mutual friend about him like asking him his name so he told me. This guy Frank* gives my eye contact, and looks at me, but I usually don't look at him when I see him looking at me. Any takes or suggestions on how to start talking to him?.
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A subtle approach may be to glance up and smile back at him when you notice that he is looking at you. Chances are that the mutual friend may even have told him that you were asking about him so he may already know you like him and it's just a matter of someone making the first initial move. Then you could pop over and say hello and talk to him (you both have a mutual friend so that may be a good place to start) or better yet (if you prefer the indirect approach) ask your mutual friend to introduce you both sometime to each other. It may be the best way for you both to initially start talking to each other and for you to start getting to know him better.
As for getting hurt, I'm afraid that's something that comes with the territory. :( There's always the chance that things will not work out. I think Bertrand Russell said it best when he said, "To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead."
I wish you the best of luck with him and I really do hope you won't have to go through another bad relationship.
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You need to start by knowing that the past is the past. You cannot change it but should not let it haunt you or dictate your decisions here. Nobody is out to hurt you or lead you on. This person has no idea abut your past with the guy who did hurt you.
What you ought to do is try to become friends with the person you like first. Introduce yourself if you haven't done so and invite him to hang out with you and your friends some time.
Press a piece of paper with your number and online info and ask to chat. Build your confidence that way and see where things lead you. You MUST move on from the past and go with the flow. Don't let it hold you back from meeting the rightperson or being with them.
At some point you could say to him that you were hurt in the past and don't know you can handle a relationship. All you have is this minute right now. Everything else is done with. You have to move forward and not orry that the past is going to repeat itself. This is a new day, new page, new scenario, new guy.
The only way you can get hurt right now is if you let what happened in your last relationship stop you from moving forward. If you like this guy go for it. Nothing but fear is in your way.
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