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My Mom
I am thin and today when I came home from work I changed into a tee-shirt but wore the same pants I wore to work. She asked me as I sat down to eat if I lost weight, and I said no, but this upset me. I said to her that she always tells me I look beautiful. She said you do look beautiful but your pants look bigger. And she told me that I am skinny enough. However, I feel as if she is telling me to gain weight and I look ugly -- is this in my mind and am I overreacting. HELP
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Heh I know exactly what you mean. Every time I see my parents after a period away I get comments on whether I've lost/gained weight. It's honestly not meant in a negative way, however tactless it may sound, it's just because your parents will always worry about your wellbeing not because you suddenly look ugly to them!
With all you hear about young girls with eating disorders nowadays any caring parent will have a little panic if they think you've lost weight, worrying that you're not eating properly. My dad nearly jumped for joy this time I came home from University having put on the half stone I (completely accidentally) lost the term before!
So long as you show your Mum you're eating well and reassure her you're fine she should let it go. In the meantime just be thankful you have a Mum who pays attention to and cares about what's going on in your life. Fending off the occasional paranoid comment is a pretty small price to pay for that.
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Mums notice every little detail of their children and that includes weight gain/loss. She is just concerned because she loves you and you shouldn't take it too much to heart. I totally agree with the last answer that after wearing your pants for a day they will be a bit loser. You may also be feeling a little bit more sensitive as your hormones do change frequently over the course of the month and whilst growing up. The reason I gave my answer is because I have a daughter who can react quite badly to what she perceives as possible 'criticism'. My remarks may have been taken just a little too literally and badly. We Mums also get hurt at times if we are misconstrued in what we say. Give your Mum a big hug and tell her you are fine. All the best.
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Yes you are overreacting. I gave this asnwser because if you think about it you have been wearing them pants all day, so of course they dont fit like they did when you put them on their worn in a little. I think you should think about this, as long as you know your the same size you were you should stay confident.
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