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senior w/ a sophomore
I'm a sophomore who is "seeing" a senior... is it a bad idea for us to go out? Since the school year is winding down I'm a little concerned about him going to college, even though we still have like 2 more months + summer. He's going to school about 3-4 hours away, BTW. I'm worried that we won't have time for each other, that it will be difficult to have a long distance relationship, and that he will want to go out with other college girls instead of me once he gets there! PLEASE only answer if you have HAD this experience, and tell me how it worked out. Thanks!
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when i was a senior in high school, i went out with a freshman. we had some problems, but age wasnt one of them. i say if you like each other, go for it.
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I know you want people who have experienced this situation themselves. Althought I haven't personally dealt with something like this, I know people who have. I think in order for a relationship to last after it goes long distance, it needs to be pretty strong & serious beforehand. I believe any relationship can work as long as there's communication, trust & honesty. But I also believe you need to see & spend time with that person for anything to last. If you can't trust the person & the relationship isn't somewhat serious already, it's probably not worth dealing with - atleast not at your age. You don't want to be 3-4 miles away worrying about whether or not he's cheating with other girls. You're at the age where you're going to be going through guys left and right - or maybe not. But you shouldn't make any big commitments until you're ready to. If it's something you're willing to work out, go for it. From my point of view, I think you should have fun & date guys who are closer to you.
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My sister and her boyfriend (three years older than her and a sophomore in college) have been together for almost 9 months. Despite the fact that he's in college, they are still going out. Him being in college doesn't keep them apart- whenever he's home they spend a lot of the time together.
So, just try it out to see how it works, and if it doesn't work out, then it doesn't, and you can't help it.
My suggestion again is to try it out and experiment with it. The long-distance relationship takes effort from both ends.
Hope I helped!
--Jack
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ask your bf if he'd be willing to wait for you to finish high school until dating anyone else. if that goes well, communicate every day in some sort of way, which will keep you 2 both emotionally connected. while your bf is gone, live a single's life w/o the flirting/anything-else-inappropriate-for-a-relationship. if you can't make it 2 see him occasionally (which is best), do things like see a movie separately then talk about it (or see it 2gether if possible) or stargaze 2gether, but on the phone w/ each other, but no physical prescence of each other or whatever. avoid the temptation to be controlling, talk about your future 2gether, and be prepared to say good-bye if my advice doesnt work out
good LUCK!!!!!!!!
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hun, if he really likes you then he will want to stay ith you, if he doesnt its his loss so dont worry
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