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Does he like me or Just want to be friends?!
Theres this guy at work that has been confusing me. He's a team lead over cashiers and with me working the sales floor, we had never talked before. One day I was joking around at the service desk with one of my friends who is a cashier. She introduced us and since than him and I have become instant friends.
When I walk by him, he always hollers at me so that I will stop and talk to him. Even when I come in on my off days, he stops whatever he is doing and talks to me.
One of the things that confuses me is that he treats me differently when some people are around. When no one is around he flirts and tells me his plans and things about himself. But if people are around he treats me like a team member, like he wasnt just flirting with me 2 seconds before.
Like the other night, he made me stay past my time to cover a department, so another team member could go to the huddle. After the other team members left, he called me to make sure that I wasnt mad at him.
He is very very serious about keeping his work and personal life separate. He also keeps spouting off the rules to me about how he is not even allowed to hang out with team members only team leads. But than he messages me to come and hang out with him and so on. When I questioned him about how isn't him hanging out with me mixing work and personal life, he responded with that he trusted me not to mess up his work enviroment. He always drops little hints into the conversations about himself and everything.
Another one of the team leads over the cashiers who I am extremely close with told me that they told her that the rules were that they could date and hang with team members as long as it didnt interfere with the job.
The other night I ran into him and his friends at the pool hall and the first thing he said to me was "What took you so long to get here?". After they left him and his friends went to eat and I went home. When I got home I had a message from him asking me why I didnt come eat with them.
He's not a really shy guy, he's actually very outgoing.I've never ever had a boyfriend, any boy that I ever liked has always put me in the friends only category. He is the first guy to even show just interest in me that is maybe a little more than just friends. I think he knows that I like him but I'm not sure. He's told me that work relationships, never work out, not statistically anyway. People at work have noticed and tell me that he treats me different than he does anyone else there. I'm just not sure. Sorry for the long text I really needed to get it off my chest.
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well what i think is that he likes you but is very serious about keeping his job. he obviously has a thing for you but probably just doesnt know how to let you know. maybe he thinks you dont like him. what a smart thing to do would be to hang out with him more outside of work. get to know him where he doesnt feel paranoid about getting caught on the job flirting with you. so what i think is that you should def. chill with him more offten OUTSIDE OF WORK more than at work because obviously he can just be him self and not worry. also since you have never been in a real relationship it would be smart to not get clingy. thats always a way to lose someone you really like. hope i helped. :]
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It sounds like he likes you. But like you said yourself he is serious about keeping his work and personal life seperate. Because he is higher up in the ranks it is more important that he acts professional at all times. Maybe he is not sure that you like him and that is why he is not persuing the relationship. My boyfriend and I work at the same place, and we do act different around eachother, it is in a sense that when we are at work, not boyfriend and girlfriend but just associates. I think you should let him know that you like him, and that you would not do anything to compromise his or your jobs.
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it sounded to me that he likes you, but doesn't want any one to know about it. next time you two are alone ask him why his personality change when someone is around, and ask him to tell you what is going on between you two, because sometimes all a guy need is a little push, and one more thing is don't be disapointed if he just want you as a friend. good luck.
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