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Is it worth it "killing" yourself to get good grades?
15/f
I JUST started high school this year, and am amazed at the amount of work that is given on a day-to-day basis. I mean, seriously. 6 classes, each class has its own assignments, homework, classowork, etc. It's VERY hard to keep up.
All through middle school, I've been a straight A student. But now in High school, I've noticed that it's getting harder and harder to get perfect grades.
Now, my problem: I stress my self way too much over school. If there is an assignment due the next day, I won't go to sleep unless I have finished it...even if it means staying up until 5 A.M. I'll stay up until 6:00 A.M if I have to...JUST to get those A's. Same thing with studying.....I can NEVER just say "Screw it...I'll fail ...whatever"...NO...I'm too scared to do that. But, unfortunately, this method of mine is ruining me...I get NO sleep, my nutrition is low, my excercise levels are declining, and I'm constintantly studying. I even faint sometimes as a result of this (I have fainted in the past week...) I have incredible amounts of anxiety and panic attacks....even if it's the TINIEST thing.
I don't know how long I can keep this up. :( I know it's good for my future...and I know getting good grades is important...but to what extent? Is driving myself nuts REALLY worth it? Because I see some people get off with C's and B's and they're fine. This brings me to another issue: parents. My parents are fine with B's. (even though they want me to get A's)...they don't push me...or make me get A's. In fact, they tell me NOT to stress myself too much and that it's okay with them for me not to strive to be the best. Problem is: I WANT to be....but I want to get a chance to be a normal teenager once in a while and get a perfect amount of sleep.
I know there are people here with a lot of experience...Can you please tell me what to "do"? :(
Thanks in advance :]
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I started highschool this year too. I get straight A's and I am definetly not trying as hard as you. You really need to find time to relax and sleep! It may seem like school is the more important thing, but its not. Your health is more important. If you work on homework when you get home from school (and take breaks )and in any studyhalls you have, you should be done before dinner. If not, you are trying to be too perfect on your homework or you are taking too many classes. Try to make a scheduled "bed time". Try to get 8 hours of sleep. If you still have homework to do by bedtime, skip it. Unless its a huge project or essay. If you have to study or do another little thing, do it at lunch or on the bus, or in free time in a class. If you miss a homework or two, it wont hurt your grade. Trust me, i miss homeworks ALL the time and i get straight A's. Just dont stress out, and if you are still stressed out.. try talking to your guidance councelor.
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You don't have to work so hard for your A's!
First of all, don't procrastinate. Do a little work for, say, an hour or two a day. Study a little, work on projects, etc. This will significantly lighten your load.
Next, you need to find your limits. Figure out the minimum effort required to maintain the grades you want, and do slightly above that. No need to overwork yourself, but you shouldn't slack off entirely.
Anyway, I hope this might help a little bit. And if you ever need help studying or anything, just drop me a line! As a recent High School grad, I'd be happy to lend a hand. ^^
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im the same way you are...but i doubt that i am that hard on myself...i totally understnad what your going through...i am a junior right now and i get a lot of homework, i am stresssed so much that i even start throwing up because i can't take it...over winter break
i had to read a full 200 pg. book and write a report, two history projects, finals three days after break, an english project, chemistry test the day i got back from break, art project,etc (I AM NOT EVEN IN HONORS OR AP CLASSES) it was ridiculous.
during that time, my mom was so frustrated to what i was going through she started helping me (not doing the projects) but helping me get info, quizzing me, proofreeading my reports, read the book because sshe wanted too (im not good in reading comprehension) and making sure i understood it, add a touch or two here or there...i know it may not sound like a lot but i helped so much and it's ridiculous the competition at school...by the way its not considered cheating what i did.
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I understand what you are going through, and it's tough. Do you participate in other things outside of school? Or are you constantly studying? If you do have other things going on, then maybe consider taking a break from them or thinning them out a little bit to give yourself more time.
If you're afraid that letting up on your schoolwork will lower your grades a lot, then I suggest you test it out first. If you have an assignment, try just doing what you think is the minimum amount of work needed to make a low A or a B. Most high school classes weigh tests and projects a lot heavier than homework.
Or, if it's studying too hard that is the problem, then maybe it is that you study inefficiently. You may need to take a class on study habits or get tutoring so that you can make studying easier. If you are spending hours memorizing something that you don't need to, then you'll make life so much easier if you can work around that.
Are you in any honors, or AP classes? If so, then consider dropping one to lighten your load.
Don't be afraid to take action. You are overdoing it-without a doubt. Every teenager needs their sleep, nutrition, and even a time to relax during the day, so make a change in your life. You will feel so much better!
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