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you answered a question for me earlier about my friend and me. It didn’t offend me or anything but I think you missed something. I HAVE discussed this with my friend. Very much so She tells me to not be envious and is trying to help. everything is not given to me easy like you think. I work hard at everything. Just socially I am just a shy person and have trouble approaching people. I don’t really have much practice, but I have gotten a little better over yrs. I just wanted my question to have a background. So make a long story short my question was just how do seem too forward, because this day in age It seems like it is harder for guys and the girls have to take the lead. I am just old fashion I guess and wanted a second opinion on how I could approach Brett. Sorry for the confusion.
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Hey, sorry for the misunderstanding. I wanna say too, that I didn't think anything about your work ethic or if things were given to you easy. Everybody's got a different life and I try hard not to judge others. What I was doing was trying to encourage you not to take the easy road and to step out of your comfort zone more.
I know what you mean about how girls are now expected to take the lead sometimes. I have an old fashioned attitude too, but you have to keep in mind that even if you are old fashioned, it's more than okay for a girl to hint to a guy that she likes him. Dancing with Brett will do just that. Even an old fashioned girl knows that if she isn't even noticed by a guy she likes, she'll never get what she wants. Make yourself noticed.
Your idea of being forward is much lower than most other people's. The thing is, it doesn't matter how forward you think something is, it's not actually forward unless the other person thinks so. Brett won't find you to be forward if you dance with him, no matter how forward you feel like you are being.
I know that you have talked to Sabrina about Brett and how you want to dance with him and you feel left out and all that, but have you directly mentioned that you think you have feelings for him and you want to try to pursue a relationship? If you're not direct, Sabrina will probably just think that you're jealous and you're trying to steal her dance partner away. Be direct with her and see where that takes you. If you were direct and Sabrina knows full well that you're interested in Brett and she is still acting like she is, she is a horrible friend. She's being so selfish. What you should do is either break off the friendship, give her a chance and try talking with her about what friendship is to you and how she's not doing that great of a job, or go out dancing some time without her. If you let things continue how they are, Sabrina is going to "cock block" every single guy that you want to be with ([Link](Mouse over link to see full location)). Sorry for using that term, but I couldn't think of anything else that would get the point across better.
I thank you for correcting me and I feel much better about things. You seem like a really intelligent person and I'm sure you'll have a very successful future. <3
Good luck!
Oh, I'd also like to add that Sabrina is being a real witch to Brett, probably without realizing it. He probably does have a thing for her because of the attention she gives him and this is leading him on hardcore. That's really mean. You might want to talk to her about that too.
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