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my totally awesome girlfriend
ok, well...i'm 14/m...and i have an amazing girlfriend that i love SOOO much...but i have a lot of people that i kno that just...don't support my decision to be with her...there's kinda some good reasons for their argument but i hate it when they bring it up...
well, when i first met her, she was going out with this 21 year old, and he was a jerk, but she couldn't get him to leave her alone. this guy was horrible to her- apparantly he thought it was love...he's a weirdo...
well, he threatened to hurt her (and me, for that matter) unless she had sex with him, and of course, she wanted him to leave her alone, because not only was he being a horrible person to me, hejust wouldn't leave her alone...so she did it. and this guy left her alone.
and so everyone calls her a whore and all that stuff and she's not- she's not a slut, doesn't dress like one, is amazingly beautiful...but i feel like i'm the only one who sees that in her...
so i guess what i'm asking is- how can i get other people to see what i see in her? because honestly, none of my friends do...
thnx
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You are welcome. It is sad that you take genuine help and advice as just another lecture. This is probably why you have a tough time hearing anything from anyone who does not agree with you. Grow up, and you won't FEEL lectured. Continue on the path of plugging your ears and hearing and seeing only what you want to, and you will end up walking into traffic or off a cliff. Good luck, you will need it.
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It won't happen. No one will ever see her as you do. You are the one who is blinded by love and they are not. This does not mean she is a slut or that they are right. It does mean that you need to truly accept that she has earned her reputation by her actions...and they were regretful to say the least. Next time someone tells you not to be with her or calls her a slut, you can tell them that you can understand how they would feel that way, but that you have accepted that she made a mistake and have forgiven her. I hope for both your sakes, you will both use your brains from now on and not her body to get you out of difficult situations. This older guy used her and made fools of both of you. He should be prosecuted for statutory rape for having sex with a minor. You both need to come forward and talk to her parents and the local police. Otherwise, he continues to be a threat if not to both of you, to the public in general, to the next minor girl he rapes. Do the right thing and stand up for your girl and the next one.
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If you truly love her than it shoudn't matter what others see in her. It should just matter what you see in her, and if your friends are truly your friends then they should respect your decisions and opinions even if they don't agree with you. Other people won't always see your girlfriend like you do, and sometimes that can be a good thing. Talk to your friends tell them what your feeling. If you can trust them explain the situation, they may not agree with you but they may leave it alone. Besides, nothing lasts forever, as soon as something else happens the attention will be off your girlfriend.
Hope I Helped & Good Luck!
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Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder!
You don't need to prove anything to anyone, as long as she's the one you're interested in, nobody else needs to be involved with your decision. Technically, you can only CONVINCE them to like her, but you can't MAKE anyone. But if you're totally set on it, try this:
-Tell them what kind of a great person she is, and tell them she's your girlfriend and you won't tolerate them making fun of her or calling her a whore.
-Tell everybody they don't know her and so they have no right to say whether she's a slut or not.
-Tell everyone they're misjudging her and if they got to know this girl they'd like her more.
~ Hope I helped, Lauren
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well.. can she be lying to you?.. about the hole if i didnt have sex with him, he would hurt us?.. where you there when he said that?...
if she isnt lying, then PLEASE stick up for her..
i have a friend who gets called that, and her boyfriend doesnt stick up for her.. so please just stick up for her and be there and dont be scared to kiss her infront of your friends to prove you dont care what they say or think...
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